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I know I know HOW to do all of it, I'm saying I don't know how (emotionally, mentally, whatever) to do it.

Make yourself exercise consistently for starters.

It'll get your brain in a better mood for the kick in the ass you're about to receive.

Go ahead, I'm ready.

No you're not. You think you are and you're going to cry wolf and wonder why people are are being mean, and picking on you.
Its a viscous cycle. It seems like a form of attention craving. And if it is, it baffles me.

All the tools are in previous posts to you.

Dar you have all the tools and you are equiped to move forward. When the thoughts of h come in put up the big red stop sign in your mind and tell yourself to STOP. Not going to go there.

Decide today that life is going to change for the better. No more feeling sorry for your situation or wanting and wishing for h to return. Give h something to return to.

Keep busy! I had my nails done, tanning, hair cut and color, new clothes, Vicctoria Secret, babysitter on Friday nights. I did these things for me, not for h, for me! I try to keep the house very clean and give my kids all the love I can spread around. My days off, I try to do fun things with the kids.

Dar life must go on, if you choose it. Just maybe your h might notice and be attracted to what he sees. When you say to him please leave I can't bare the pain of seeing you go, how do you think it makes him feel? Is this someone he wants to return to? NO!

Remember you are in charge of your life! No one but you can make the neccessary changes. Go out and live life, that is what it is there for.

My h left the same month yours did! Hugs!

Hey Dar...glad your H thought of you on Mothers day....hope it was a nice one for you.

Jack, I can take it. I actually need an arse whuppin' today.
This is no form of need for attention at all. I thought about it last night and today. I have been given TONS of tools from lots of you here, and I do know how to use them. I mentally cannot jumpstart myself for whatever reason..that's what I still need to figure out.

Hi Kissak! Thanks for popping in. It was a very nice mother's day with a rescue mission morning....The hamster escaped in the morning and we had to leave, but we closed D's door and when we got home she was there. So D was relieved. She said "we're going to go home and have a blood trail in the house"...she thought our Yorkie would kill it and supposedly there would be lots of blood. D's imagination makes me giggle.

Glamgirl, thanks for posting. I appreciate the suggestions/advice you gave.

Dar, The "I'll call you" remark H said/says means nothing. It is a way of leaving you ie your house or when you call him. It is just his way of ending the call or visit.
Please don't read anything into it. It is not a baby step or whatever sign you are taking it to mean.
Just be thankful he is kind and generous as he would be to a friend or the mother of his child.
Leave him alone and enjoy your gifts.
Fill your days to overflowing and you won't have the time or energy to go through this rigmarole every time you think you see a step or a sign.
I,m glad yo had a nice day and the hamster lived to escape another day.