H wants to go sign the documents Wednesday morning. It's already Monday night and I haven't gotten a copy of the document. I refuse to sign anything I haven't gotten checked first. I guess I make it known to him right?
BUT how do I embark on THAT conversation? Any tips/pointers would be great.
Thanks Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Do you have a L? If so, have them contact them. Otherwise, tell your H that you need 24 hours to look any documents over to feel comfortable signing them so you hope they arrive in time or you'll both have to reschedule and "that would be a pain."
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Thanks CW. There are Ls that I just need to call but I want to keep this "friendly". With that said though when I get the document I'm going to take it to one of the Ls I know so that they can read it over.
His sister is doing the "work" and I trust her but in D one can never tell. I'll give them until mid morning tomorrow to send the document. Then if i don't have it I'll tell him I need it by midday and follow through with the advice you gave.
You're a sweetheart!
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Jen, you can keep it friendly and still see a L. Make sure that the L knows you want it to be friendly.
And, seriously, I am overly trusting, but do not assume you can trust your H's sister as your L. That doesn't mean that she's out to get you, but if there's any bending allowed, she will bend her brother's way. That's just human nature.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
I didn't read/post yesterday and just found out about your H moving out. I also don't know where my H lives since January, just like Addie I never asked. I guess I never wanted to know the answer.
I agree with the others, talk to the L, be friendly but firm.
((((Jen))))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
I'm still waiting for the document. I told him this morning that I asked a month ago for the papers and that I was exercising my rights to see them. I told him I wasn't signing anything until I read them.
Everyone I talk to has told me the same things. I am not about to be bullied into this. If he wants me to sign papers then I want to see them.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
