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Jack I doubt his 'Dad' even knows it happened. S15 is unlikely to tell him. Every time I try to enlist his help in this area he threatens me with a law suit so I haven't contacted him about it either.

thank you for your support

Thanks Lissie. I wasn't actually referring to DBers but thank you for your support.



Trouble is it's been punched so many times it's beginning to fall apart.

Naej I missed your post before. Thank you for your support.

Smurf. Your D must be totatlly stressed out if her hair is falling out. Has this happened since her trip to visit her mother?


Letting go has been the hardest part for me both with my H and S15. It feels like I am turning my back on them. With H is has got easier the nastier he has become but with S15 words just can't explain how it makes me feel.

Gotta do it though. I'll let him come to me. Seems like everytime I go to him we fall out. A few days ago he wanted to play tennis again on Sunday. We'll see if he follows through (of course it will probably be throwing it down with rain by then)

Never thought of tying it an event, but yes it could have been, or the 3 week visit from my parents, that is enough to stress anyone out. I have even heard her shout and moan at her friends like she does to me. So I have learned not to take it personally.




Yes it is and does, after all those years of caring and taking responsibilty for them, it does feel feel like that. With regards your husband, you have to, you have no choice.



Offspring, it is very different letting go. Wanting to guide them down the right path, teach them right from wrong etc.

The way I try and deal with it, is to think that they are of the age, that they would be thinking of leaving the nest anyway. Whether it is University/College. Trying to go it alone or with a partner. (OK a little earlier than we would like and not our choice), but they will be back!

Thanks Smurf. I really appreciate your support on this one.

WRT your D. You noticing her bald patch will have evoked two emotions. The first one vanity. What woman let alone a young woman wants to hear that she has a bald spot? The second one fear. She may not know that it could be linked to her stress levels or even a hormone imbalance. I'm a bit of health investigator due to my job but if I were you I'd do my research and present it to her in a caring way and one which won't get you emasculated

So you dont recommend the "hey baldy" or "hello wiggy" approach then! Wondered why she burst into tears!

Have had a look at Alapechia, and it seems to fit.

It now comes to mind, that a colleague in Holland, who went through a divorce, developed a bald spot, and then it grew back. That was stress related.

Funny that the dance we have with our MLCer is the same as the one with our kids. Before I would be concerned that she was in her room or going out, rather than spending time with me.

I left her alone a bit, now she is spending time watching TV with me. Trouble is you wont believe the crap I have to sit through, When all I ask for is Coronation Street....and some nights she does not go out at all!! So it does happen!

My parents bought me a free view box for my birthday in April. At the time I thought it was a good idea. Now I wish they hadn't. Yes it means I see more of my kids b/c they want to sit in the lounge and watch the channels they can't get in thier bedrooms but it gets a bit much when you can watch yeterdays, todays and tomorrows episodes of Holly Oaks all in the space of an hour an a half. Then of course if you really want to (and they do) you can watch friends permanently all fcking week! They have the audacity to complain when i have the jewellery channel on for half an hour! Hey I am just trying to save my next partner some money when it comes to buying the biggest and bestest diamond ring (Actually I'm rather getting into tanzanite)

I am too late getting home from work, even with time difference, to get to watch Holly Oaks, but daughter was trying to get my parents interested in the story line.

"He is gay and having an affair with a priest", "She has a child and duped everyone into thinking the child has leukemia, and accepting money", "She is on drugs", "her father is dating her best friend", "and those two there snogging, are brother and sister"....yowser!

Actually, I do feel like Ian Beale at times, Lucy is exactly...

diamond! tanzanite! cant interest you in a coke can ring!

I just wanted to wish you a nice week-end. (((HUGS)))

My D18 told me something really spooky this evening.

I was watching the jewellery channel on the TV when she came in to say she was going out with her friends. At the time they were showing a platinum and diamond ring. I remebered that some time ago she had told me OWs engagement ring was platinum and made reference to this. I knew they had got engaged about the same time they went to Amsterdam so as part of the convo I said something about H probably buying the ring there. D18 said she knew he definately hadn't b/c OW had had to take her original ring back to the shop where it was purchased from b/c one of the diamonds fell out.

I was dumbfounded b/c the EXACT same thing happened with my original engagement ring! Of course mine wasn't platinum (and still isn't) but what are the chances of that even happening let alone it happening twice with the same man buying the ring? Talk about reliving your own history.