Was out with the wife at a party until 2:30 am last night.. then back up this morning at 8 am for a double header softball game (D13). Then picked up D13 and her friends from the mall on the other side of town. Brought them back here and finally got to sit down. So I guess you could say I am relaxing.
Last edited by Forrest Gump; 05/10/0810:18 PM.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
How do you manage to radiate sunshine day and night?
Thanks so much for your advice on my thread. It hits home.
Something's happened. I don't feel like I know anything anymore, don't have any wise words.. just sharing the companionship of my soul.
About your spouse being gone for six weeks.. it's tough not to have them around. Since mine has been gone, different things emerge. Would I be lonely/lost without him, how would the kids be? It was a jostle of questions. The biggest thing missing was the sense of his energy.. it was missing, like he'd packed that up too and took it when he left.
He's been gone two months.. and I no longer feel the absence of his energy. In fact, it's turning out that much of my life hasn't changed. I didn't realize how alone I had been in my marriage. The most positive change has been that I feel so much more secure in everything I do.. except when I'm dealing with him. I can't believe what had been so wonderful now seems so negative.
As an aside... I used to make jewelry.. want to see it?
The friends house that we were at was the girl that was getting married when my "stitch" started. Both this girl and her (now) husband knew that my wife was going out with her "friend". Actually, they had all been out on numerous occasions. I digress. The bridesmaid group (5 other girls/women, my wife) were secretly fed up with J's (Girl getting married) attitude. The kingpin of it all was B. B had set into motion a mass Walk Away. The main reason behind the rift was that J and my W had become close. The WA happened about 10 days after my bomb. So to say there was "Drama" in my life is a severe understatement. Not only was my wife dumping me.. at the same time her friends were dumping her and J. About 2 months ago B realized she had made a mistake and approached J. They reconciled. B was at the party last night. My wife was not happy about it. So the conversation went something like this..
I cannot believe J let B back into her life.. after all the mean things she said/did. I mean WTF is J thinking B crapped on her and then wants to try and smooth things out? F that.. I would not give that Bit*h another shot.
Then the kicker.. If B had a problem with me and J she should have come and told us about it.. she should not have just let me and J hanging. Thats what friends do.
My mind was saying thats exactly what you did to me.. should not the same logic apply. As hard as I tried to hide it she saw it. She started asking what was wrong. Of course I said "Nothing" and kept driving and smiling.
To give her some props (my wife) she did come to me today and say.. you know.. last night I said a lot of mean things about B. At least she is trying.. I have to give her some credit for trying. I just nodded and smiled. Don't know that I would change much.. but it just goes to show you.. when its you going thru it.. it somehow seems worse.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
