Trusting, I just winced when I read what he told your children. He shouldn't be discussing these things with your children. But you are right to keep dark. No offense, but I hope you don't ask the children for any information. Maybe you should tell them that it's best that you not hear such things.
Sounds to me that the gentleman doth protest too much--you have to be the villian, you see, so that he can justify the damage he caused. It will get harder to do so as you are absent. Now who should he blame??
I wonder if the OWs wind up getting the brunt of the MLC waking up. I mean, when life isn't perfect, now she is probably going to get blamed for luring him away from his fantastic wife and ruining his family life and causing all his problems.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Breton, I hope so. I hope she gets a taste of it, just a little nibble.
I don't ask any information from my kids. Sometimes they just splurt out what is on their mind. I have found it is so much less painful to ask questions or to inquire about their father. It is really none of my business anymore.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T- i am trying to follow your footsteps and have in many ways. Afterall they seem to have kept you on a very healthy plane.
My d11 has told me much. As we talk she just keeps sharing...for me right now it is good...insiders view on what is his fantasty ---but as you know less is more in this new life.
As I move toward the big D I look forward to the release of having let go --- i have seen it in you..
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
"Be still, and know that I am your GOD" (don't know the book/verse)
"Patience is a virtue" (?)
"Run silent, run deep" (Old WW2 submarine movie)
Ok I'm twisted. And I know it.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
I took my older daughter to another Bucks game. We have really been enjoying ourselves doing this. It is such a wonderful diversion for us both.
It is also quite a 180 for me and this has my ex very puzzled why I am attending a sporting event like this.
Ex has been so quiet. I almost feel he is testing me to see how long I will last without contacting him. I don't think he has taken me seriously when I told him that as long as he is with other woman, he has made his choice. Seriously, I really feel this way. I will not be second best to a bimbo. Life is so much more peaceful not in the drama.
Don't get me wrong, I miss him, the old him. I have not seen the old him in years though and may never see that man again.
He did tell me when he had just begun his journey that he would never go back to "the way he use to be" - a nice guy.
Anyway, I think about you guys all the time. I am sad that there are other people going through this. I am also reassured by all of you and I get strength from reading that other people are surviving this.
Love Trusting.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
He did tell me when he had just begun his journey that he would never go back to "the way he use to be" - a nice guy.
They say things that they mean in the moment and don't remember later. I think they just need to get the words out to see if it's something they really believe.
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I am sad that there are other people going through this. I am also reassured by all of you and I get strength from reading that other people are surviving this.
Your honesty in your post made me sad because I understand, feel and know what you are saying. It is acceptance isn't it? We WONT be second to any BIMBO!!
The ow stuff is hard. VERY HARD. Here we are living - and trying to move forward adn they just jump on the first ship that drives by.
This to me is much like a terminal illness ---like cancer. The death IN the cancer is what makes people look like they are sick and damaged....by cutting out the cancer it brings LIFE back. BUT often there is still chemo and other treatments taht may not be pleasant at the time -and also cause some "outward" appearance of damage - BUT inside there is healing!!
It will take us time T- this acceptance thing well to be truthful my heart wants to fight it. BUT I MUST accept it.
You are totally in my thoughts. MORE than you know!!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
