Hey! I finally got over here. Your husband is an as&! Sorry, but yikes! His kids, her, her kids? What a mess! I understand about you not listening to your lawyer. It's only because people like you, Hill, AG, BrightNewDay and a bunch of others who kicked me in the as* did I start to worry about me. As someone's post said" I started to replace my wishbone with a backbone". Perfect! I'm sorry! That really is shi**y. Happy Belated Mother's Day.
Hey Matty....I feel ya! It seems to be alright when my XW let's the kids miss school on her own reASONS....but, IF I DO IT???!!!! Holy Crap!!!! I am scum!!!
I was invited to my BIL's birthday dinner last night. It was the first time in a year that I have spent any time with him, although I see my SIL frequently. I had a nice time and guess this is part of the healing process!
Hey, Matilda! Just stopping by after a while away. Sounds like D17 is starting to clue in about who the sane parent is...:) You sound good, woman. Be well.
Hey! I finally got over here. Your husband is an as&! Sorry, but yikes! His kids, her, her kids? What a mess! I understand about you not listening to your lawyer. It's only because people like you, Hill, AG, BrightNewDay and a bunch of others who kicked me in the as* did I start to worry about me. As someone's post said" I started to replace my wishbone with a backbone". Perfect! I'm sorry! That really is shi**y. Happy Belated Mother's Day.
That is from my sig-line!!! It took me toooo long to do that for myself! So then i put it there so I could see it everytime I post!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Do you think it's ok if I instigate time together for D17 and her dad?
D17 has spent exactly 5 whole days/nights with him in the past year. She has told me she would like to spend more time with him, but she "doesn't want to impose". She wants to be invited by him, not invite herself over. Guess the issue is her dad is living at GF's house. Everyone still calls it "GF's house; not THEIR house".
Her dad's work schedule is erratic, but he does have a week off starting Sunday. I asked if D17 could stay there all week. Then I asked for just Sunday and Monday. Of course, her dad asks "why?" (the previous time she stayed the night was because my mom was sick and I went out of town). I asked in an email, "what time should D17 be over on Sunday morning?" No response. Now I feel like just saying D17 will be over there at noon and I won't expect her back until 9pm on Monday.
D17 wants to spend more time with her dad. She needs time away from me!!! I need time away from her!!! Her dad just doesn't get it!!!! (of course, he hasnt' for 17 years,so why should he now??)
Not sure if this is good advice, but I think I would give that a try Mat. What could it hurt? I guess since she is older there is no set visitation schedule??? Still seems like there should be some consistant time that your D17 knows she will get to spend with her Dad.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
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