Have missed your posts; but I am excited for you. "Chick flicks"! I don't even know if I want my W back enough to start watching those. j/k Good signs from him. Keep holding on and hoping. That is all we can do sometimes! I am proud of you!
Lol. As always, thank you so much for your support. Sorry I didn't get a chance to chime in on you earlier question. I don't have much to add b/c I think that Christa and JMW said it all. I would focus on the positive. She is angry. Anger is the result of sadness and hurt amongst other things. Hmm. Doesn't sound like someone who doesn't care. Hold onto the fact that she still cares. Like Christa said don't make any rash decisions. Hang in there.
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
how are you? got served yesterday so it feels that teetering on friendship took a setback...leaving her alone - no point talking to her, it won't help - guess that's a 180 - sure she expected it.
I can only imagine how it must feel, but I know you won't change your focus. You have been so strong throughout this process and you are an inspiration. It is a bump in the road, but it is just that, a bump. You were served papers so how has that changed your friendship? I hope not at all. You definitely want to show her consistency and that you are not affected by having recieved papers. If not talking to her is out of the ordinary I would stray away from that. Sounds like she is expecting you to react to the papers, but in a negative way. I think the best way for you to show her no reaction is to continue what you have been doing.
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
exactly...I did not react. I will continue to what I am doing b/c that is the new me. I also, must be strong now...stronger than ever, b/c my 5D needs me.
The latest. I spoke with my DB coach and she was pleased with the progress I/we have made. She even said that we are solidly in Stage 2 and feels that Stage 3 is just over the hill. She said that I should, amongst other things, start contributing to our time together to show my appreciation such as when he asks me to come watch a movie to bring some snacks and beverages with me.
I called H yesterday trying contact him before he contacted me. The few things that I noted showed progress include: 1. Him engaging AND contributing to the conversation. 2. Accepting my invite to have a "Lost" and "the office" night and bring his newest favorite from Rubio's (which he said that he would like for me to bring over last night, but could wait until Thurs., also a plus that he wants to see me besides the times we schedule it).
He also mentioned that he would check into the expiration of our cell phones so he could get us new ones.
Also this past Saturday I saw him and as my coach suggested I began to leave the house when he stopped contributing to the conversation. His reaction was "why". I have NEVER recieved that response.
My coach also suggested that I try a kiss, but I am far to scared for that one. I'll start with a kiss on the cheek. Also on the list to show interest in his hobbies.
We seem to have long periods of no progress followed by a sudden show of progress. I feel like this may be one of those times and I hope I am right. I am about to take a leap of faith tomorrow night.
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
made new SJ...gotta do work stuff...I have a few thoughts for you. But your progress sounds great...
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My coach also suggested that I try a kiss, but I am far to scared for that one.
then I would do the 48 hour thing and see if your fears subside a bit...I did that with ring thing. Well, didn't wait that long, but after thinking about it awhile you'll know when...don't be scared when you do.
I'll chime more later...gotta call atty and work...
WOW! I am so envious. My situation seems to be going the opposite direction. Good luck with the kiss. Take time to think about it and to act on it. You have done so good. I am going to update my thread. Man, I can't get over how well you are doing. I am so proud!
