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I realize he's got issues that he needs to work through. But the rejection/betrayal/lying/limbo still hurts.

One Day is so right. This is not about you, its about him and what he lacks.



Of course they do, thats why you have to have a PMA and keep doing things to improve you and your life. He will have to do his work at his own pace.

((((Michelle))))

Michelle - i wonder why i felt some comradery - i see that "ow in england". yes, a year ago this country stopped its existence as well as everything "england" reminding. h's ow is from england. now it is a little bit better i am not as traumatized by english accent as before

if you want i can tell you about the supplements i am taking and why

I have gotten some great recommendations for supplements and am starting to take them. I have a multi-vitamin for women with extra B-complex and Iron that I've been taking for a year or so now. I also bought fish oil for Omega-3 today. And I'm looking into an adrenal supplement as my body is pretty worn down.

My H's OW/ex-OW is not from England, rather she is doing a year abroad there. But yes, mentions of England, especially Manchester, or University do tend to make me feel a bit like I got kicked in the stomach. As does her name of course, which is unfortunate as I have several friends with the same first name as OW.

Note to self- no more mentioning here. Sorry Michelle if anything I've said has reminded you of her/here (name included. It's a pants name anyway). A pox on Manchester; it's really a horrible place, full of aubergine like people- all slimy and bitter with swollen purple bits.

OK, really going to bed now. (((((hugs)))))

I always thought it was a good name before. Then the TAP had to go and poison it for me.

A pox on her. It really has nothing to do with her name or where she lives. It has to do with the fact that she is an immoral slut with self-esteem issues and no other ambition than to steal my H (except she wants the depressed and broken version, which I don't understand).

Grrrrrr.

Well, H and I talked a bit on IM just now. Part of my frustration is that a month ago he wanted to date, and now we chat regularly on IM and he never even brings up getting together. I understand that if he's depressed he's having a hard time just doing things, but he always found the energy to do $h!t with OW! GRrrrrrrrrr.

I thought my H had backed off again since the kiss. Today he tells me in detail all the sh&t he is dealing with at work and he sounds apologetic. You can't know what's going on, sometimes we spend too much energy trying to figure it out and the truth is much simplier...

I thought these statements were very telling:

H: coming off drill is usually depressing
Me: just because life is too complicated or because it's more fun to play army?
H: I go from being the leader of the best assault team in the company to being nobody with loads of credit card debt and no clear career

But his solution is to be mopey and anti-social and neglect his friends and family. Which frustrates me because I'd be willing to help him out, cook dinner for him, do his laundry, if only he'd act like we were together. He's making life so hard on himself and than complaining about it nearly every time we talk.

Sounds like is hitting a "low"... Let him get it out of his system Michelle. Patience.