Affairs by definition are realtionships that occur while a person is already in a relationship.
I was going to be long winded here, but instead I'll try and get to the point.
They are running from something, and until they stop and face whatever they are running from they always will. To that end, until they do, any realtionship they are in will be in jeapoardy.
That's my belief, and I am not a professional.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Yes, they are running. They think they can find something that will make them happier. And considering many did not have a happy childhood, they think they still have not found true happiness only to find the affair has been an illusion and not what they thought it was going to be.
It is interesting to hear what they thought a few years ago and what they think now. I am basing this on conversations I have had with my husband.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
SF, I have to agree with your last sentance here. It IS DEFINATELY amazing what H spewed just 2 years ago and what it's like now. It's calmer for sure and we can talk like adults. Although I'd still like to know the direction our R is heading, at least it's better than spew and OW bullsh*t.
The time will come when you will know where your R is headed.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
