You've done the right thing in coming here rather than taking it you your wife. No contact is better for you in the long run. Keeping in contact with her can only open you up to being hurt again and again, so you yoyo in emotion. This will toughen you up, and if she wants you, she knows where you are.
My mind knows that. Heart has its own thoughts sometimes. I have noticed that sometimes after reading or posting and stepping back, The desire to contact is actually stronger when I know that is not what is needed.
Does anybody else ever feel that way? An increase in desire to contact after being on here?
One thing I am sure some of us have done is read things and said...but we were different than that. Fact is, we are all pretty much the same aren't we?
Without knowing how things shook out with your gf, it's hard to know what to give you for advice. Have you already went down the route of pursuing your gf? If you haven't, then there is nothing wrong with finding out if there is still interest. You have to poke your head out of the dark sometime...otherwise, what is your gf to think? She isn't a mind reader, so, for all you know, she thinks you are happy with the decision not to see her or speak to her ever again. Have you given her anything that would suggest otherwise? From the outside, it may look as though you are perfectly happy...dating again, getting laid, not calling or anything else. Think about it. If you are trying to get her back, going dark isn't the only solution...and from where I stand..7 months says that it either won't work, or she truly doesn't want you. Care to figure out which it is?
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
