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Good for you, cat.

Cat... you didn't tell him he couldn't use the shed because "your new husband wouldn't like it.", did you?

Remember when you thought *someone* was reading here?

It sounds like he got that idea *somewhere* and isn't even thinking logically because he's so enraged. He's making no sense.

PS (((((((((Cat)))))))))) thinking of you lots.
Kel

hey girl))))))))) no, I said, I actually asked if he would want to still store stuff in the shed if I were to marry again, to which he said yes, and then he started with the crap that he wanted to get paid in full the minute I get married.

ahh. well, I maintain that anyone fool enough to lose you has lost his mind and we can't expect him to make sense anyhow.

Glad you are finally getting to the point where most of it won't affect you and the kids on a daily basis.

You sound great hon...

"I dont' want him doing his childcare in my home, I dont want him coming in and out freely from MY house, if I ever remarried I want his crap out of my home asap."

Pick your fights. Unless you are legally guaranteeing him access to your home for childcare or whatever, you can simply not let him use it (it will be YOUR house, right?)and have your locks changed at any time. If it isn't a legal fight, don't throw it into the mix now.

I'm glad you are beginning to see the harm of these kinds of ties to your future life.

It is not in the SA about him using the house to see the kids.

OK folks, just talked to the loan lady...

She can offer me a loan with the same house rate i got of 5.87 (unless I buy a point which would lower my rate to 5.5 adding 2k to my closing costs, but in the long run I earn 14k.

My mortgage payment would go from 1,230 to 1,300 per month, if I borrow 23k (only giving stbx 17k) I will be able to pay off my car. I also wouldn't have to pay him the 230 monthly and he'd have to pay me full child support, which, unless I suck at math (and I do) means I'd have a surplus?!

Meaning, I'd rid off him, he wouldnt' have to come to my house 'cause he have enough to pay off his debt and get his own place and I would have gotten his name off the title. Lord, sounds too good to be true, I really need to think this before I offer stbx 17k. Assuming he'll take it and he meant what he said the other day, that debt ridden as he is he rather take 10k now if we sell the house than wait 5yrs for the 23k.

Heavy, heavy prayer now. \o/

(Side note on the buying down the points chances are you will refinance in the future and the difference you pay in points may not be recouped- just a personal preference)

(Also offering praise and thanks on your behalf)

Good grief, cat.

Sounds like a blessing to me...


And with the car paid off, you have more money each month and you don't HAVE to keep comprehensive insurance on it unless you choose to (smart choice to do so, BTW - I'm just saying...)

Yup.
I'd do it.



Amy

thanks guys, sounds like a good choice to me too, I do end up with more money, and lots less grief. He just called me again, but wanted to make him sweat a bit, lol, plus, the kids are here and i dont' want them to hear our convo.
I will bring up the loan not without first telling him that if he ever disrespects me like that again I will cut communication with him and he'll have to go through my brother for any thing kids related for a couple of months (my bro is the kindest person but a bull if you cross his path.) It is a thread i can carry, no bluff, I 'm only saying what i think i can deal with, his cursing me ends today.
I'll prob call him after kids go to bed or in the morn.

Ok, have to go now, little nazy of d5 wants her puter back, lol.