There is a small but significant difference. You are patient with your wife because of your past, (and your love for her), you are patient with me because of our future (and because you are in love with me)(you said that- I had to bring it up sometime)...
Hope you get to take the boat out. I am sure your wife has trouble facing you b/c she knows what she is doing is WRONG. Hope she doesn't mess up your vacation...I will bow out of the trip to Greece, you and K would make the rest of us feel like we were butting in