Sounds like he is really trying. All I can say is show him that there is no reason to think that way anymore. Show him a great time when you see him even if he is late.
Your advice was on the mark. I thought about what you posted the last time while I found myself waiting for my H last night. He was late and he didn't answer his cellphone. Shades of the past.
H left for work this morning late because, well, you know... . He is leaving for Orlando straight after work and won't be back until Sunday.
The last time he stayed in Orlando for his certification exams, he had his OW with him. This time he wanted me to know that she definatley won't be there, and also that he had told her this past tuesday that in no uncertain terms and under no condition is she to pursue him any further because it is over!
He left work early yesterday in order to spend more time with me last evening. He said that although in the past he was not this open with me regarding OW and himself, he wanted me to know about this latest interaction with her because he is trying to earn back my faith in him.
Upon leaving this morning, he asked me if I loved him, I nodded and he said he loved me too. He then asked me if I was going to miss him and when I replied "yes", he said "Good, because I'm going to miss you". He also told me he loved me yesterday morning before work. All this with absolutely no prompting.
He has been so kind and loving lately. It feels like he is truly detaching from OW and directing his energy toward me.
So many great things going on for you! the "late for work" spouse, the words of love and his openness about his recent talk with ow...really, really good stuff!
What are you going to do on your bachelorette weekend?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
As I told H, I might take myself out to lunch and I might even go out for a while Saturday night. (H was concerned about the going-out-by-myself part. ) I told him that maybe his going away for a few days is a good thing because it will give me an opportunity to get out amongst other people and prove to myself that - yes, I can be fun to be around. (Sunday morning H said something hurtful to me about not being able to enjoy himself while partying when I'm around.)
I also brought up the idea that perhaps some weekend he could stay home and I'd go out-of-town for a little R&R. H became a wee bit pensive over the idea, but continued to be be sweet and supportive.
You see, he has all sorts of trips lined up for himself, mostly work related, but he also has a week's vacation to Alaska set up just for himself coming this June. He made this arrangement shortly after he dropped the bomb. So naturally, I was not consulted about this, just informed after the fact. I've not held this against him because of the circumstances under which we were operating at that time.
However, I do believe that he needs to be a little more sensitive to my being left out and alone so much. I think he's getting there on his own, but I think it's healthy for him (for us) to see movement on my part toward a little more freedom and independence for me.
Got five phone calls from H yesterday. That is a record. H is nervous about his certification exams today and it is me now that he turns to for comfort and reassurance instead of OW.
He made his fourth call to me while he was dinning and said that he was having a gin and tonic and wanted to share it with his wife.
I'm waiting to see if he will stay in Orlando tonight for the purpose of having a fun night out, or if he will chose to come home instead. Either way, I will be fine.
Wow sounds like you are getting along very well, It is amazing how things have turned around for you. I remeber reading your thread when you got here. Im so happy for you.
Well things were moving along nicely for a while, but ever since last Monday afternoon, the atmosphere around H has gone grey and mirky and I've also found on our cellphone bill, conflicting information as to statements made by him
So there goes the trust rebuilding.
I haven't brought it up to him, but boy does it make things uncomfortable again.
I've been trying not to get too anxious or depressed, however, I'm having a tough time of it.
H and I are supposed to do an overnighter in Tampa tomorrow. I'm so stressed out trying to arrange for our four legged kids and for the folks (my mom and her husband who have Alzheimer's)and wondering what's up with my H.
I'm not all that confident that I'm going to be much fun to be around by the time we get there.
Running out of steam here.
Wish I could find an icon for "flipping out".
. He is leaving for Orlando straight after work and won't be back until Sunday. 
