Pretty sure H is not going to be moving home tonight. It is his day to watch D today so he needed to pick a fight because there was no juice boxes. With a comment of "It is just never ending, nothing ever changes" There is bottled water and (GF this is for you) mini gatorades that could go in D's snack. I just see it as his classic pick a fight so that can be why he isn;t coming back. The question remains, do I really want him to?
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Pretty sure H is not going to be moving home tonight. It is his day to watch D today so he needed to pick a fight because there was no juice boxes. With a comment of "It is just never ending, nothing ever changes" There is bottled water and (GF this is for you) mini gatorades that could go in D's snack. I just see it as his classic pick a fight so that can be why he isn;t coming back. The question remains, do I really want him to?
My H does the same thing I guess so they can justify their poor behavior! And we are such great wives I think it is tough for the poor guys to come up with fights! I try to just ignore him and do my own thing when he is like that (which seems like a lot).
And do you want him to move back? I don't think I will ever have the opportunity to decide, but sometimes I think things are better without my H here. Karen
Well really, have I done so much to improve that the only thing one could find to complain about is a juice box shortage??
I know what you mean Karen, its tought to find something to fight about, but they do it.
I see this as either him wanting to fight and therefore not come home, or having planned on coming home is already so miserable about the idea that he finds fault, and the blanket statement of nothing ever changing? I am just frustrated. There is an article on the main page "He must be teething", it talks about not assuming the worst by a partner's actions or intentions and ask yourself "Is it even remotely possible I am jumping to conclusions?"
I am going to keep this in mind as I go home and not walk in the house ready to accuse H of this fight as a way to avoid coming home. Having no juice box is not serious for me, maybe it is a crisis for him.....more at 11 -
...Will H prove the he must be teething theory wrong - wait and see...
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Well guess what H wsn't teething. After him staring out the window miserable (memories of January) I said to him I am lonely when you are not here but it is better than this. I said do you not want to move back in is that why you are so miserable, he said I do want to I'm just not ready yet. So I asked the forbidden question. Is it because of her? I got the snappy no it is not because of her?
Me - are you still talking to her H - at work yes. Me - well then that is the decision right there, you are not welcome to move back in as long as you are still talking to her.
H - (shocked and suprised - have I been speaking greek?)You want me to stop talking to her even at work before I move back in? That is your rule?
Me - yes, I am not sure why you are suprised we have been discussing this since March when I found out you were still talking to her, I thought you moved out to try to get through that I didn't think you would be coming back here and still calling her. She destroyed our family I will not continue our M while you still talk to her. If I said to you we will be getting a divorce unless you stop talking to E(a manager from a different store) could you do it?
H - Yes
Me - then don't tell me you have to talk to her for work and the fact that you cannot stop means that you are not committed to this M
Then I got up and did the dishes.
H sat on the couch about another half an hour then got up to leave. Says to me when he is leaving I will try starting tomorrow, but believe me 9 times out of 10 it about work and I can't help it if she answers the phone when I call there(lame).
I had in the pocket of my jacket from weeks ago 4 quotes that GF had put on my thread in different posts from "Not just Friends"
2 were about being trustworthy and the other 2 were about AP that were in the workplace. I handed them to him to read and told him I did not write these they are from a book written about what happened to us. He took it to read.
I just recd a text "I will try my best tomorrow to stop"
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Thanks puppy, the kudos are appreciated. I actually felt like I did the right thing this time.
H sent me a text this morning, "Good morning, will my money be available today" (slightly different from the "did you pay me?" of 2 weeks ago) I responded, just transferred.
He then sent another text "TY remember I am really going to try today"
That is all from this morning, really odd he has had to tell me 2 times since he left last night how he was going to try, what has he been doing the last 4 months?
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
I try to just ignore him and do my own thing when he is like that (which seems like a lot). 
