I didn't (and won't) reply. W had obviously recieved her mail before the text went out to me, so all of our good feelings from the day are basically gone. That is what is too bad about this legal mess we're in. I can only hope more time will allow us to communicate like we were for most of today. I liked that feeling. It was nice.
Enjoy those moments and have no expectations of more--that way you won't be disappointed on the bad days.
She will be angry when she figures out what the letter really means. It is up to her lawyer to manage that--if she gets snotty with you about it, just refer her back to her lawyer.
I know that W will figure it out and I guess I did place expectations on her, so I let it bring me down when she turned on me yesterday. It was so nice to communicate w/ her in a semi-normal fashion that I did get sucked in.
Anyway, I didn't have any real contact w/ her today except for the e-mail she sent me about bringing her fancy dresses, shoes and purse w/ me when I drop off D tomorrow. I thought she had them, but I was mistaken, so I'll bring them to her tomorrow. I'm also going to reply and ask her for two of my books on marriage and being a good husband that she has in the pile of books she took. I'd originally decided to leave them w/ her as she was interested in reading them as well, but now I think I should just get them back. I'm pretty doubtful that she has any desire to read anything that may make her reconsider anything at this point.
I picked up D from school and we came home and basically chilled out until 7 when we took the dogs to the dog park. I was beat, so I'm so glad D just wanted to hang out b/c I needed the rest. D then came back and wanted me to make her something to eat, so we had ice cream for a snack, and then I thought it would be off to bed, but the little weed is growing so she's eating a ton. She polished off the ice cream and then had me make her a cheese quesidalla for her to pound down before sleeping. I'm glad we can stay up a bit later as well as sleep in tomorrow.
The only thing she's said she'd like to do tomorrow is go out to breakfast, so that will be on the agenda for sure. I'm not sure if you know this or not, but my D is a self-proclaimed "big breakfast girl" so her daddy is always glad to oblige. I'm hoping we can ice skate tomorrow as she loves it and is getting better, but I have to check calendars to see when the public skate is going on tomorrow.
In any event, we'll rest tonight, then have fun just being together tomorrow.
However, it all turned about 7:15 when W sent a text saying "Hey! I'm so excited to hear from your L that you are no longer fighting me for 50% custody of D."
This was in response to our letter to her L on Thursday which demanded a retraction of W's misleading claims against me and specifically said I was "not fighting for 50% custody of D, but rather asserting his rightful claim to that custody. Using your client's logic, she is the one who is fighting to maintain primary custody of D."
I meant to post this earlier, but it seems that someone's understanding of the English language might not be quite up to snuff! Or somehow "asserting you rightful claim" is more polite than "fighting"!
My W is the English professor, so I'd think she'd be able to figure it out. However, she does what she does and will spin and spin and spin in any way that suits her story.
As for the text, it was clearly another attempt to bait me into replying and reacting. I didn't so she didn't get what she wanted out of me.
Well, D and I lounged around today watching "SpongeBob" until about 10 when we went out to breakfast. D said she wanted to go ice skating, so we hurried home and I got us ready as we wouldn't be coming back to the house.
We skated, then ate lunch and then I had her take me to Toys-R-Us to give me some ideas for my family for her upcoming birthday. We then went to meet W and when we arrived, W was again in her little athletic skirt and top that were both made out of that cottony-lycra workout material. She had stopped wearing skirts when she got the job as a college professional b/c she said it was "too revealing" but now she has the OM, she's back to wearing them. It is too bad b/c I always told her how they showed off her legs and she looked good in them. Oh, well.
Anyway, I was wearing my new jeans and a new pair of casual shoes I'd picked up a few weeks agon and W definitely gave me the once over and checked me out. I'm not sure what it means, but at least I know she noticed how I looked, which has to be good.
Well, now I'm going to get changed and head off to the gym for a short workout and I'll make sure to call D at 7:30. After that, I'll probably just be here watching the Mariners' game or something. As long as I have baseball to occupy me, I'm fine w/ being alone.
Oh, hey. I forgot to mention that W wanted us to "talk" before we bought birthday gifts for D b/c she was worried that we'd "duplicate presents."
I told W that shouldn't matter much b/c it would just mean she'd have the same things at both places, but I told her we can talk about it this week.
W didn't know what to say and she acted as if that comment about the two places caught her a bit off guard. I was a bit amused and a lot confused b/c how could she not have thought about this? She's the one who wanted her "own place" so it was odd it took her aback a bit.
Its probably nothing, but I thought I'd share it anyway.
I'm going to keep letting her know ZERO details and if she ever does ask, I'll be pretty non-committal on my answers.
I called and left a message for my D about 2 hours ago and W didn't call back. She usually does this when she's ticked at me in some sort of an attempt to "get back at me" for making her mad.
I'm wondering if she's pissed b/c D and I were laughing and really having fun when W picked her up today. D wanted me to keep playing w/ her instead of leaving. I left her laughing, giggling, and smiling, so I'm guessing W didn't like that at all.
Oh, as for the NL, I am a D-Backs fan. D and I go to a couple of games a year and she gets in line to see Baxter, then we go to the 300 level and she plays in the playground area while I sit on the rail and watch the action. I'm fine w/ standing and D LOVES going. I can only think that the more and more I take her to baseball, the more she'll start wanting to watch a bit of it w/ her old man.
D wanted me to keep playing w/ her instead of leaving. I left her laughing, giggling, and smiling,
RTL - I have been staying updated with what you have been up to out West there. Those special times with D are wonderful for you and her. Such wonderful memories will be stored for future recall. I have been accomplishing some baby steps with W for two straight weekends now. We talked at the library today for about an hour and a half. I haven't the foggiest of what it may lead to, but if it leads to more talking I'll be happy with that. The expectations are truly low, which is good for my mental health.
It has been a couple of weeks since I spent some time w/ DD14. I miss her a lot and I know she is going through the usual teenage difficulties. She was feeling broken-hearted and I am sure for that reason wanted to spend this weekend with W. I asked W today if she returned DD14's call and she said no. That kind of upset me, but my W has absolutely no money and would have been too ashamed to have to tell her no for this weekend. Oh well:(
I'm glad to hear there are small steps being taken in your sitch. Take them for what they are worth and see them as the positives that they are.
As for me, it seems that whenever I get some minor movement out of W in terms of inching toward me and us, something happens (most likely the OM) to cause her to sprint back to the anger and vile. As my friend NutFarmer has said, expect nothing and I can't be disappointed, right?
By the way, W didn't call back last night or even send a text apologizing for not having D call me. This is unfair and it is a very selfish attempt on her part to keep D away from contact w/ me. It is so very sad.
