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That's exactly what I'm doing now Annabelle. I couldn't agree more! I don't even think H would know what to do with D right about now. He doesn't know her school schedule or anything. It's sad, but his loss at the same time.

hey I brought it here instead of NC thread

and

Amy...

I feel kind of honored to be named among you!!!

Dar...
I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis

Jack named you fig. Let me just clarify. I don't have any issues with anyone UNLESS they resort to name-calling. That is very childish and then to go and try to pep up others is ridiculous. I don't get how some can be mean like that and then go off all happy happy. But regardless, that's their issues not mine. I know what mine are and have worked towards bettering myself.

Fig, don't be sorry. Like I told AB, maybe I can lose some serious weight now. (for real though, yea it's serious, but I've got to keep a positive attitude on it to keep me going).

Dar...what I think you are missing is the fact that no one really named called

they pointed out behaviors in you that have names

we see of you what you have shown

you don't like it...then change those things

you talk about all these changes you have made but your posts are the same as they were in the beginning

you crave attention

i know I can give it for so long and then I get pissed
get motivated
do something to change

just like resorting to telling people to check up on you on your thread

those people that read you and follow you will do so without the reminders

you need to do things to raise your self-esteem...then you won't need anyone else to tell you you have changed or you are doing well or what have you

you will just KNOW it

and

Jack can name me
it's cool

and if you believe that you are the only one people have come down on you need to check the archives...
or read beyond your own thread

reach a point in your life where you don't need or want people to feel sorry for you and THAT will be a sign you are on the right track

You know what, Dar?
You've got enough on your plate.

Perhaps you will make room for a bit of honesty with yourself but I seriously doubt it. My guess is you will milk this diagnosis for all it is worth and you will never miss an opportunity to make your husband feel that it's all his fault.

I have no regrets over anything I have said to you.
I have spoken the truth and yes, at times it has been brutal but you are a brute of a woman, Dar.

Let's not forget that I have also laid my own story out on your thread and shared things with you that it HURT me to go over but I did it because you said my words and experiences helped you see clearer. Further, when I was absent from the board briefly, you expressed that you were GLAD I was back precisely BECAUSE you knew I wouldn't bullsh*t you.

The one thing I will gladly take back was saying I thought you had what it takes to "do" this. I believe that to have been an incorrect statement.

I don't believe you have the character, the self-awareness or the balls that it takes to walk THIS walk.

Good luck to you.




AmyC

Thanks Nutty, I appreciate it.

I have had it several times here where people misread, but then it comes back that that's an excuse I use. So who knows. I don't really care about that right now in all honesty.

My D is what will mentally get me through this as well. I agree, our kids give us the strength to do things that they don't even know they're doing it.

dar

not every sitch is the same, so our emotions and reactions cannot be the same.

It's very easy to visit your thread, get totally annoyed as it's always depressing, you apparently have not changed, grown nor listen to anyone who tries to give you advice.

I do remember oneday calling you many many names. I'd totally had enough of all about dar. There are so many people on this board who has problems, yet they can pull themselves up and find some humor, some joy, some GOOD in thier life.

You have a hard time with this.

A few weeks ago you mentioned a woman in your office telling horrible stories to get attention.

I sure hope your not doing the same.

I do have my doubts and I hate that they are there.....it would be horrible to make up something like that just to seek attention.

There is enough ugliness out there without doing something like that.

Amy, you have been a HUGE help here and MANY MANY would agree to that for sure. I read SG's thread for you and that was VERY kind of her to do so.

I was pretty hurt though straight out being called a beotch by you but then you go and talk about God and being kind to others. It's like you follow one thing but do another sometimes and it's upsetting/confusing.

I find it VERY upsetting that you say I will use this cancer to my advantage and blame H for it. Please. It is no one's fault that I have this and as I've stated in this thread, my attitude will get me through this.

I am a strong person Amy and will get through this and my marriage regardless.

Dar...

this is going to sound snipey but for real....

was that a halo you just turned on above your head???

You have suddenly become all Mother Theresa like???

good grief