Thanks ladies. I decided to call this morning. It rang several times and then went to voice mail. I left a message that said "Hey, it's me. I didn't want anything, just wanted to check on you, see how you were doing. You can call me back if you want. Take care."
It's been 2 hours and she hasn't called back. I would think if she wanted nothing to do with me that she'd send a text saying "leave me alone or do not call anymore." So - she's either busy, hasn't gotten the message yet or trying to decide whether or not to call me back and what to say if she calls.
It's funny. I'm getting to the point where I really don't care much anymore. Is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Thanks ladies. I decided to call this morning. It rang several times and then went to voice mail. I left a message that said "Hey, it's me. I didn't want anything, just wanted to check on you, see how you were doing. You can call me back if you want. Take care."
It's been 2 hours and she hasn't called back. I would think if she wanted nothing to do with me that she'd send a text saying "leave me alone or do not call anymore." So - she's either busy, hasn't gotten the message yet or trying to decide whether or not to call me back and what to say if she calls.
It's funny. I'm getting to the point where I really don't care much anymore. Is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Well, I guess it's safe to say that she's not going to return the call. It's been 12 hours. I suppose that's why I was hesitant to call her. I was so afraid that this would be the outcome - no interest. As long as I didn't hear from her or pursue her, there was hope.
I guess I can assume now that she's definitely not interested although it would be helpful if she did send back a text that said "leave me alone" or "it's over - stop trying." That would definitely close the door for me.
I am afraid as time goes by that I will get less and less interested. I'm already pretty detached. I was not at all surprised that she didn't respond and I'm not really sad. It will be such a shame if she calls in a year and I'm happily involved with someone else or "over her."
Anyone have any words of wisdom? Thanks for listening. K
I'm sorry she didn't respond.. I think you should "drop the rope".. tell yourself that you are done and that you're not going to hold out hope for her any longer.. My hope for you will be that once you've made this decision that magically she will reappear in your life.. It may be wishful thinking or dreaming.. but it is what I hope will happen for you!
I'm sorry K.. I didn't mean to make you cry.. but unless she is on vacation or something.. she should have called you back if she wanted to touch base with you.
I truly wish there was something more inspiring I can say.
You will be fine.. and you will always have feelings for her... deep feelings like you've had do not just vanish.. that's the part I never understand about the WAs.
Don't worry W2G. You didn't "make" me cry. You just made me realize that obviously she was not interested and was not going to call. It hurts so much. I feel like crying as I type this.
She is not on vacation. I called her cell phone anyway. She did not want to talk to me which hurts so much. I don't understand why we can't even talk on the phone and be "friends."
Thanks for your words. I do appreciate them even if they make me cry.
I have recently realized how badly I screwed up. I deserve this treatment from her. She tried so hard to tell me that she felt smothered and even though I heard her and tried, I was unsuccessful in changing.
We "broke up" and got back together about 2 dozen times. Ridiculous. I always promised change and it just didn't happen. I realize now what a stupid fool I was. I had the most precious thing in the world and lost it. Yes, she had her faults, too and this might not have happened with a different person, but I knew what I had to do and didn't do it.
I really feel down because I am suddenly feeling "responsible" for my predicament. I have forgiven her and now I'm trying to forgive myself. It's not easy.
Oh well. As you all say, I'll be fine. I've been hurt before but this is the first time in my life I've felt this passionate about someone and been "dumped" and I HATE IT!!!!
