Pancake breakfast this morning. W would not go. D and I went. It was fun. We then went to a big playground that has been built in my hometown. It's about 3 acres of nothing but equipment for all children..I'm talking all children, handicapped or not. It's called a "boundless Playground" I called my S23 out there also. I needed to tell him in person that his step mother wants a D. I felt bad for him because I know he might feel he is re-living my D from his mother. He was 10 when we Divorced. I would have rather told him face to face than do it over the phone.
We had a lot of fun on the playground. I got some good pictures. I made a good memory for me and my D.
My wife called me while I was there. She was crying. It seems my mom called her wanting to know why my W was not at the pancake breakfast. Unconditional love from my family. I think my mother also asked some things about why my W wants the D. My mom and dad are very hurt. They have accepted her as a daughter. I called my mom back and let her know the call was probably a bad idea but they don't really understand my W's reasons for wanting out.
When I got back home my wife had covered up my copy of the D papers so she would not see them. I uncovered them.
Well, It appears that my wife is setting up baby sitting responsibilities for my D up through September of this year. She is making comments to people that I am slowly accepting that we will be divorced.
I just don't think I will be able to stop this freight train.
It's been a pretty bad week so far. Tuesday was not good(notification of papers being served). Friday was not good (papers served and I told my mom and dad about it), Saturday was not good (my mother made a phone to my W about it) and all three of these things led to relationship talks..I'm batting a thousand this week. I thought I was doing OK, but in reality I suck at this.
My mother made the mistake of mentioning a trial separation to my wife and now that's all I'm hearing from my W. She even said the D papers could be withdrawn if I left. I am leaving the house in a bit just to give her the day to herself.
I don't really have the finances available to get another place. I really don't have any family I could move in with. I guess I could get room at a local motel. I'm afraid if I leave then I could be charged with abandonment.
M, I still say stay put where you are at. Can you live in different parts of the house to see if that maybe would work. I know you have had a really tough week but don't let that cloud your mind into doing something you would end up regretting.
M, I still say stay put where you are at. Can you live in different parts of the house to see if that maybe would work. I know you have had a really tough week but don't let that cloud your mind into doing something you would end up regretting.
Well, I sleep upstairs and she sleeps downstairs now. There is a basement but it's not finished. I guess I could move stuff around and set a bed up down there and just stay down there. I stayed out of the house pretty much all day today. Went to my mom's then played golf in 40* temps with sideways rain. Shot 78,. I don't know how I'm managing to hit a golf ball with all this going on at home.
It appears that my Friday depression has somehow made it over to my Mondays now. I'm hoping that it does not fill my week.
Did not get home until around 7:00pm last night and said little to the W. I did tell her my mother said that she was sorry for the phone call to my W on saturday and that I was sorry that my mother called and upset her.
My W seems real happy right now or at least she is when I am home.
It sucks trying to work while this is going on. I do not want to be here at work right now.
I plan on working out after work today.
MC tomorrow but I do not know if my W will attend or not.
I thought I would wait until after the MC session tomorrw to schedule an appointment with an attorney to look at the D papers. I wanted to see how the MC session would go first.
Hi M, just checking in on you, good round of golf for you I see. What did you think of the outcome of the Masters?
I am also in somewhat of a dilema that you are in with anniversary. My W and I started dating on April 18,1986 and I have always treated this like an anniversary for us and I am not sure of what I should do either. I will keep an eye on your thread to see what others are telling you to do, part of my wants to send flowers to W and other parts of me say let it go. I don't know what to do and I'm sorry I can't help you on that.
