I spoke with my lawyer this morning and he said that H had no right to cancel my cell phone and he was especially interested to know that H has been carrying others on our cell plan. He also told me that H had better not try to stop paying maintenance and he better not dare drop me from his medical plan either.
He was also especially interested to know that H gets a lot of financial advantages by shacking up with his single mom. As a result, my lawyer advises me that I am definitely entitled to more money than H is giving me and if he refuses, we are going to court.
We all wonder the samething "who is this person?" What helped me was realizing thet he was sick. No normal person would ever say and do, (especially when it comes to treating their family)some of the outrageous things they say.
Remember, this is all on him and about him. You couldn't have changed the course and besides, it wouldn't have mattered who he was with, He was destined to go through this crisis.
Hmmm, we will be going to court because H declined to give me more maintenance.
He also accused me of shopping on E-Bay and having boxes of merchandise stacked all over the house, like I'm some kind of hoarder. I don't shop on E-Bay, I tried to SELL STUFF on E-Bay.
I do shop online for clothes, shoes, school books I needed from Amazon, etc, but jeez.... LMAO!!
Well, since H has already betrayed me on so many occasions, this is the last straw. I guess it's time for me to betray him and bust H in open court on his own internet addiction......can anyone here guess what that might be....??
Ah! that's the other gem my C told me this AM, that if I would've done things differently it still would not have changed H's ways/decisions, the prob was HIM.
Originally Posted By: Kimmie Lee
...can anyone here guess what that might be....??
oh boy, it doesnt' involve vynil outfits and whips does it?
Ok, kidding aside, be careful hon, that his ugliness doesn't rub off on you hon, it sounds like it will be ugly as it is, remember, that at one of you has class...you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
For me, I feel like I could have changed the course of things. If I had been more interested in sex the last few years, he wouldn't have given up on me like he has. That's not to say that all of us are in the same sitch, but I do think it takes 2 to tango. I hope I'm not out of line--I am just reacting to the "nothing could have made a difference" idea from my own R perspective.
Me/X-H: 47/48 T 19 yrs M 16 years D14 D10 ILYBINILWY: 10/07 H moved out 6/08
I respectfully disagree and so does my therapist. She assures me that I did nothing wrong and that H has control issues, but no true leadership qualities.
H has already started acting up with his OW and she threatened to throw him out. They have only been living together for two months. H is clinically depressed and on medication, but they probably need to be adjusted. H simply cannot play it cool and go with the flow. He makes impulsive decisions that always come back to bite him.
Disconnecting my cell without telling me is only the latest example and even H's own lawyer couldn't believe he did that. Ironically, H's f'ed up impulses are now working to my advantage. Wait till he and OW find out that he has to pay me twice what he has been in spousal support. LMAO!!!
Kimmie, Like I said, I am only commenting on my own M. I wish I could feel like I had nothing to do with my H's change of heart, but I think I did. I probably should have put that in my own thread, not here. Sorry!
Me/X-H: 47/48 T 19 yrs M 16 years D14 D10 ILYBINILWY: 10/07 H moved out 6/08
