[quote=karen43] I just don't think it's fair that I have to make the choice... but no one said life was fair and I have to determine what is most important to me - the potential for huge financial success or living each and every moment of the day in agony! Or, maybe I could chose not to let this bother me... Or, maybe I should get a prescription for Xanax!
I think it is important to see that you have choices & you aren't really trapped in this situation which you do realize!!! Whether you decide to stay in your job or not or try ADs or whatever you are in control! My AD of choice is Prozac btw!!! Karen
I really think you could sue for some major money if you got let go from a company because 2 co-workers got together, I think this OW boyfriend is really screwing with your head, maybe he wants you to blow so he won't have to.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Girl.. I am sorry you are going through a tough time. I am wondering how you are doing. Thank you for cheering me up. My mom sent me e-mail today asking how kids are doing.. I usually come up with "sorry mom, i have been sick.. maybe cold(sometimes, allegy, busy with work.... blah blah blah.) Not easy to tell my mom that I have troubles.. She will make a big deal out of ANYTHING.. So, it is best for her not knowing what's going on. (((hug))) Beauty
Me:31 H:29 D:7 S:2 M:7y Together:8y found out his A :07/07 bomb:11/01/07 s: 11/15/07 OW-1 is out of state; other female friends around first thread
Hey, girl! I noticed you haven't posted on your thread lately so hope you are OK!!!! Hopefully you are doing good & too busy to post! Let us know how you are doing when you get a chance! Karen
Your thread caught my eye b/c I love that song too!
I hope you are feeling better today; you sure have been going through a tough time. Living and working with your H is no picnic, not to mention ow being there too. Is it at all possible to move your office? I think it is incredibly disrespectful and thoughtless for them to interact the way you describe. Even if there is nothing going on, the fact that it bothers you should be enough for them to stop, IMHO. Geesh!
Your first and second posts struck a chord with me because I can really relate you how you feel in many ways. I, too, have had problems with depression and self-esteem, and my H could not deal with the depression. I felt terribly guilty about it, until my brother somehow managed to drill it into me that his inability to deal with it refleced HIM, not ME. Same with you: You do not choose to be depressed, for gosh sakes; it's not like you can do much about it if it's your thyroid (if your meds are not working).
Why does he think you would resent him if you had kids? And what's the deal with him sitting you down and discussing what he doesn't like about you in the first place?! What about him? Has he said anything about HIS contributions to any problematic dynamic here? Do you really think it is all your fault?
Girl, you are on the right track with your GAL, and I hope you will keep it up. If you can stand to spend some quality time with your H, I would suggest doing it this w/e, but also spending some time alone or with friends, so that you can have some space from your M troubles.
I will keep in touch, if you like.
Nicola
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
You know what else is good for the soul? Knowing someone like you! Each time you send me a little note, it just brings spring flowers and sunshine to my day.
I feel a very strong connection with you, with the similarities with how we see and deal with things. The one thing I am learning with this my constant slap, slap, slap of revelations is... *drumroll*...
The guy I married expects me to be his wife while he has no interest in being my husband.
I guess when things get tough or even iffy.. ask yourself.. Is this how a person treats someone they love, have pledged their life to? If the answer is yes, embrace and give with abandon.
What about if the answer is no? What do you do.. give until it hurts? Has that helped? Sacrifice yourself for the perceived greater good? Has that changed anything..
Ohhh.. just shut me up, Ms. Imp. I'm just walking around with a new 'respect' meter. Ya treat me with respect, you get respect. Ya treat me like sloppy seconds, you aren't even allowed in line!
Karen