Just some journaling from the weekend I don't do too much of that cos most events seem like normal now.
Saturday I finished off the laminate flooring in the small bedroom, I promised W it would be done this weekend and I duly completed it on time. Doing jobs around the house is one of the things W likes to see me doing, so some plus points for me here.
Sunday I got up early as usual with D6, gave her breakfast, watch some sports on TV while preparing the veg for Sunday dinner. When W got up from her lay in (she always gets a Sunday lay in), I was off to the gym, I'm still training for my 10k run and it's just 6 weeks off now, still a lot of work to be done if I want to complete it in under an hour.
After the gym I did some cleaning around the house, while W spent time in the kitchen preparing Sunday dinner and watching her large TV. (W wants TV)
We had nice Sunday dinner as a family (W loves this) after dinner W prepared herself a nice hot bath, I told her I'd give her a full body massage afterwards, Hmmm.... She liked that idea (Hot oil and massage)
So later I set the scene for the massage, mood light, soft music (England Dan & John Ford Coly amongst others), my warm hands with a firm touch, W loves this as it really relaxes her, so much so, that she well....Falls asleep. (W falls always asleep) one of us went to bed Sunday night feeling frustrated. but all in a good weekend, we've had a good few of these recently.
Monday morning, W chewed me out for not putting D6 dirty clothes in the linen basket, no worries for me as I am allowed to make mistakes.(Thanks Rob). Plus I know W was just venting some anger at me cos her works have failed to pay her mileage allowance for the second week running leaving her short of cash. I don't need to solve that one I just need to listen.
Later W phones me to say the problem at work is being sorted out, then she apologise for falling asleep after the massage, she says she'll make it up to me . I told her I'll write down exactly how I want her to make it up to me, we both laughed at that as I've got somthing to look forward to now.
Well that's all for now.
Lanzo
PS Forrest how do I get these links to go to the exact spot?
"Later W phones me to say the problem at work is being sorted out, then she apologise for falling asleep after the massage, she says she'll make it up to me . I told her I'll write down exactly how I want her to make it up to me, we both laughed at that as I've got somthing to look forward to now."
So.. I think what you are telling me is she not only apologized for falling asleep but also the little bit of anger?
Now.. I am a DAM but I think I saw that.
I really like the reply.
Dear god please don't really write it down.
Or
If you do... make sure she sees how much Lan loves her.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
W and I had a chat last night, I had reminded her that she said if we are to move forward together we will need to talk more, but since then we haven't talked about "us". W was a bit hesitant and wanted me to do the talking and she would listen but I told her this wouldn't be the right way to approach it as it would sound like me lecturing her which isn't what I want to happen.
Actually I just let W talk to see where the conversation would go . Anyway we talked about all her plans for redecorating the house, she showed me pictures from the "House and Home" magazines and we discussed which shops we could look in at the weekend for more ideas. Then W planned where we would have coffee after shopping. At this point W paused a said "You know Lan, our numbers have got to come up soon" I asked what did she mean, She said "Just our luck changing for the better". I told her no to worry cos things will get better. So we chatted in general for a while longer, then W said "It's good to talk like this, remember when we always used to do this, meet up in bed at 10.00pm to chat about our day before going to sleep" I said "yeah, and then you used to whip your pants off and say do fancy a bit". W just laughed at that.
So we enjoyed a short kiss and cuddle and then W fell a sleep. No "Nasty Girl" sex tonight, actually there's been none since W's initial outburst of passion last week, but I'm sure it will come again soon.
Looks to me and most other folks as if your numbers have come up!
But seriously, it must be tricky to keep showing patience with this while at the same time maintaining your own momentum and changes. It would be the easist thing in the world to let things slip and backslide to a place you don't ever want to go to again.
How about a spot of revision - have a look through your old posts and spend some time setting out your current goals and above all maintain your GALing.
Even if you can't influence W I think you need to keep yourself pushing forward. Time for tweaking perhaps?
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
Looks to me and most other folks as if your numbers have come up!
But seriously, it must be tricky to keep showing patience with this while at the same time maintaining your own momentum and changes. It would be the easist thing in the world to let things slip and backslide to a place you don't ever want to go to again.
Agreed!
Don't fall into the trap of expecting to go from baby steps to giant leaps just because the tide is turning in your direction. Take it from someone who knows - it will STILL be baby steps for quite a while. But that's perfectly OK - celebrate it!
Originally Posted By: GFI
How about a spot of revision - have a look through your old posts and spend some time setting out your current goals and above all maintain your GALing.
Even if you can't influence W I think you need to keep yourself pushing forward. Time for tweaking perhaps?
An EXCELLENT suggestion. Do this for two reasons.
First, do it for YOU. This "self improvement thing" wasn't just to save your M - or at least, I hope that's what you discovered once you really got going on it. In the end, we must save ourselves first, and hopefully saving our M comes along too. So, keep working on the interesting, engaged-in-life, bigger, better person that GALing makes you, just because that's what you want to be and do.
Second, those changes you made were a lot of the reason your W was re-attracted to you. So, if you need to look at it this way (in other words, if the first reason above wasn't "enough"), then keep it up because it helps your M as well!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
