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Lays there watching T.V. That's it. I'm assuming she could have a secret "affair" phone, but at this point, that doesn't matter.

Talked with OMW yesterday. OM still claims to her that he has no intention of seeing WW again even if they divorce. I just find that hard to believe. He claims I twisted the TM's and there was no plan for him to come up here. yea, right. WW's special affair thong/bra, "what's his excuse for not coming up?" "OMW has a appt with an attny and he doesn't want to add fuel to the fire". "understandable but frustrating". How do you confuse that?

Ok, done with that.

I'm sorry I have to tell them too. I haven't done so for 7 months just because I don't want them to have to deal with this kind of pain. But they know I will never LIE to them. I've even been up front with them about some stupid stuff I did while I was young. You know the "do as I say, not as I did" kind of stuff. I'm not going to bash WW. But my boys and I have had many conversations about conquences of actions, what's right and wrong in life, etc and this will be one more lesson.

I just feel like it's time they know. I don't want them thinking what she's doing is acceptable in marriage. Don't want them to think that her sleeping on the couch, treating me like sh*t is acceptable. It's time to make a stand, whether it ends my marriage or not.

By the way Pup, I'd love to hear your story. If you'd rather not, I understand. If you'd rather not share it online I could give you my email address.

Just tell me to butt out if you're not interested. And I really appreciate your advise and support. It helps more than you can possibly know.

Obviously I'm not male but when I was 21 years old my mother had an A. I exposed it to my father who may have just been ignoring it. Your sons may react with a lot more anger than they do with sadness at this point. I do not think I could possibly have been any meaner, or said any more hurtful things to my mother than I did. I was hurt for my dad but I myself was betrayed by all her lies. I think the fear or the realization that she was losing my sister and I was huge. She stayed, she ended her A and she and my father have been married 11 more years since.

Your post Neecy is almost exactly what one of my best friends told me (my confidant Deb's husband). He said that he's never forgiven his mom for having an affair and leaving his dad, brothers and sisters.

He's reconciled with his mom and her affair hubby, but he's told me it's never going to be the same relationship with his mom that it should/could be. His older brother didn't talk to his mom for YEARS. It took him a number of years and probably only happened because Deb kept pushing him to try to reconcile with her.

And that's the part that pains me to my core. If our marriage doesn't make it, I can live with that. I really do want WW to be happy. But I WILL NOT let this current POS be involved in my kids lives without them knowing just what a piece of work he is. If we divorce and she and OM don't work out, I could be ok with her finding someone else as I'm sure I will (after I work through my trust issues), but I will never be ok with her making it with this worthless excuse of a man.

Edited to add: Call me stupid after the way she's treated me, but I hope exposing to my kids snaps her out of her fog and we end up making it in the end.

Ok, gotta run now. WW is getting out of bed and I need to shower and get ready for the day. And I'm not looking forward to it.

Good luck today.

H4U,

I'd love to tell you more, but unfortunately we're no longer allowed to post e-mail addresses on here, which is ridiculous, but that's the policy. If you can search for Chocolateeyes' posts, my situation is remarkably similar to his.

That's what I thought!!!!Hi Puppy! Karen