He has a 0 percent chance of being successful in this marriage.
Guilt will overtake his soul until he looks for peace.
This only makes him look more of an idiot than he has already.
OW is in store for a bit of heavy reality.
Stand your ground, girlfriend.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Jeanette, you know how I feel about M. He has absolutely no respect toward that institution and treats it way too cavalier. I know people change jobs every couple of years but marriages?
I know this probably makes you feel bad but I hope it actually helps knowing it definitely wasn't you. And don't beat yourself up over marrying him in the first place. It isn't your fault he has problems with sticking to committment. You trusted and he betrayed that trust.
You are awesome Jeanette!
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
Think about it.....I do not have to walk on thos DAMN eggshells when I talk to him. It's time for him to "man up". He wanted the divorce, he's got it. Now I have the ability to stand up for myself and not worry if it's going to affect him coming home or not. YIPPEE!
How ridiculous is it when you have to "gear" up mentally to call your H or xH in regards to your home??????
You guys have no idea the mind games this man plays. Good thing I kept his emails and texts I feel sorry for FABS! Poor things is going where no person should ever go....he's not mentally stable. Even Elaine...the cranky secretary who never ever says things...said to send her a sympathy card
How did I find out?
His Aunt goes to my hairdresser....she is also my x cousin in law. If ya'll remember, 3 of his cousins wife's divorced them. I was the last to divorce of 4.
His Aunt was in the salon talking about the lovely wedding. She doesn't know that I've been going there for over 2 years. I talk to Aimee alot in regards to the marriage the divorce and have shown her his emails...she finally told me Friday....she said "Jeanette....I love you to death! Your a wonderful person and it hurts me to see what your still doing...I've struggled in telling you something all day, but I think I should as your hurting over something.....Rich was married several months ago".
What am I to do? Nothing.
It truly simplifies so much. Things are easier now. I am ok.
Now I can really GAL and DBUST! Without worrying about it backfiring on me.
It's very liberating to say the least.
All is good.
Hehehe.....his job doesn't even know! I think he's embarrased of her. Hmmm...
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Wrong focus. But the little inner shallow side couldn't help it so uhm....I wont send her a congratulations on your marriage card in the mail I promise.
When you've lived/been with someone for so many years....you can really go back and reflect on the who what where when and why. Things that used to make no sense....now make sense?
It wasn't me....it wasn't his first wife, nor will it his 3rd wife who makes him so unhappy and unfulfilled...it's just him.
I've been so unhappy for so long. Afraid to make a decision, afraid to call him and ask him to do something that he SHOULD do without me even asking.
My attorney made reference to him being the type that buries their head in the sand so they do not have to face reality. That is not the way I want to live...at all.
He's still out there. I would be ok if we were able to be some sort of friends. I am not his enemy. He is.
He can hurt me no longer. I can be myself again.
I wish them the best.
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MMF...yes I know very well how you feel about the sanctity of marriage. I'm glad that I do not have to harbor the guilt of destroying it.
I forgot to add on thing..
Rich left Oct 05, but came back for 2 1/2 months.
Fabiola filed for divorce Dec 05
Rich permanently left Jan 06
Fabiola's divorce....final Jan 06
Coincidence? Maybe.....but I spose at this point it doesn't really matter, except to answer some of those chatterbug questions that have plagued my mind for a few years.
Whew!
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I feel sorry for FABS! Poor things is going where no person should ever go....he's not mentally stable. Even Elaine...the cranky secretary who never ever says things...said to send her a sympathy card 
so uhm....I wont send her a congratulations on your marriage card in the mail 
I promise.