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I just read your thread....and look forward to someday being where you are. Your strength shines through! Best of luck with "B".

Thanks Donna.

This weekend was a big one for me. On Saturday, B and I were supposed to have our first official date....it was a triple date and one of the couples was my x-SIL and her husband. Well, Saturday afternoon H's niece came over to check on the horses and mentioned that X wanted to come over to get one more piece of farm equipment that he had at the house. I texted him and asked him if he wanted to come and what time. Well, I already made plans with B that he would pick me up at 6:30. I didn't hear back from X right away so I texted him again and told him that he could come but not between 6 and 7:30. He text back and said that he would be there around 5 and that I didn't need to come outside. I planned on showering and getting ready about the time that he was going to be there, so I wouldn't go outside. I haven't seen X since Thanksgiving and the last thing that I wanted to do was see him an hour before I was supposed to go on this date....it would have ruined my evening. It was a good choice to not see X because all went off without a hitch and B and I had a wonderful date. Things seem to be going well between B and me.

B asked me if I wanted to get a drink at the bar right down the road from me before we headed to dinner. This bar was/is X's hangout, but one of B's friends was there at the time and he wanted to see him. I said sure, but we need to check the car situation out before we go in. B said no problem, but it would be kind of funny if he was in there wouldn't it....I said yes, but I'm not quite ready for that yet. I can see it already....B will introduce himself to X and say my name is B and I want to thank you....X will say thank me for what....B would say....thank you for walking out on Hope because I never would have had the pleasure to meet her otherwise :-)

My best friend sent me an email today and put the following quote in it and I had to share....

"When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him."

Well, things have taken a turn for the worse for me. First of all, I came down with an awful ear infection, so I've felt horrible all week and I'm supposed to be studying like crazy because my exam is this week.

Secondly, B got laid off, so now he thinks he might be moving out of the area again.....ugh and I was just starting to like him. He's starting to pull back a little, so I think after hearing everyone tell him that I've been through hell and back and that he better not screw me over, he's decided that it's probably better to end this now rather than string me a long for a few months and then break it off when he moves. I don't know what to think of it all. I was hoping that we would continue to see where things go, but I think he's thinking differently.

Why not ask him, Hope?

Oh Hope!! I agree with trip, ask him. Talk with him.

Sorry about your week, I had no idea. Give me a call this week!

I'm planning on it. I tried to call him yesterday and he never returned my call yet. I'm going to try and stay positive...he's got a lot bigger things to think about than just me. However, I'm not going to let him just walk away from this without a discussion. I feel like we really connected and that we had a great time together, so even if it's over...I'm not going down without a fight :-)

Lwb, I'll give you a call, but it might not be until next week. My exam is this friday, then we will have to make plans to meet up again.

Well, the big exam in tomorrow, so please say a little prayer for me if you get a chance. I'm going to need it. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed at the moment.

Here's a sweet story that I just have to share....yesterday in the mail I received a card from my uncle's wife (one that I see a couple of times a year). Here's what the card said....
"When life casts shadows in our path, and winds of worry blow,
It would be nice to know a way to make the storm clouds go....
We can't make rainbows fill the sky, but we can say a prayer
For special ones we're thinking of, and let them know we care.
Thinking of you and praying for you."
Her comments..."I was so glad to see you out and about again and moving forward in life. You're a great person and we know deserve the best. Love ya XXXX"

I know somedays we all get frustrated that we were the ones that were screwed over and that nothing seems to go our way while it seems like our WAS are having everything handed to them on a silver platter. I just wanted to say that no matter how down you get, don't let this destroy your spirit. Life has a funny way of working out, but take the high road and people will be amazed at what a good person you still are despite everything and things will eventually work out...it might take years, but it'll happen...or at least that's what I'm telling myself :-)

Hope,

Good luck with your exams.........I'm sure you will ace them.

I'm so sorry to hear about Mr B. That's the last thing you need (or deserve).

We have become so much stronger after the nightmare we have been through. Mr B is just one small hiccup in your smorgasboard of life

Lotsa luck and luv,
Andy

hey hope!

how did your exam go? hope all went well and that you are hanging in there.

Thanks for stopping by Andy and Sally.

The exam went....well it's over. I really have no idea how well I did. This was the first time I took an essay exam, so I don't feel very good about it, but you just never know.

So Mr. B and I went out Saturday night and I did get a chance to talk to him. He was avoiding me a little after he lost his job....he's used to being a really successful guy and things are just not going so well for him, so I think he was embarassed. He also mentioned that he's not really looking for anything serious...I told him I'm NOT either. I don't know why he would think that I was because I've kept it very casual...don't call all the time, etc. I told him we have a lot of fun and he agreed and I said that's all I'm really looking for right now, so it sounds like we are finally on the same page.

I'm going with him to his nephew's wedding next weekend which will be the first time I'm meeting most of the family. His nephew was my high school classmate, so there will be a lot of my classmates there....should be interesting. He is fun and cute and that's what I'm looking for right now :-)