Bronchitis is no fun! As a suggesstion...if you feel it coming on...go to the doctor NOW. I was down and out for about 3 weeks in all.
It is hard to get back into the exercise routine after being out for so long, but I am trying.
No word from H...well I guess it has only been since Monday. I am meeting the in-laws for a mini vacation not this weekend but next weekend. I am curious to see if I will talk to H before then.
Everytime I get a sinus/allergy cold, this is what I have to look out for because it almost always turns into bronchitis for me. Ugh!
Still got some antibiotics from the last time I had it, and I took some this morning, but yeah it'll most likely kick my butt for another couple of weeks!
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No word from H...well I guess it has only been since Monday.
NC is ok, remember? It doesn't have to be a bad thing. This will be good for the both of you.
A mini-vacation, huh?!!! Sounds like very much needed FUN!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Yes, at first I turned MIL down because I told her that H probably wouldn't be able to go due to work. She kept pestering me ...so I finally gave in. She told me H doesn't have to go for me to go, and she is absolutely right.
We are going to visit SIL at college and go to a football game. It is a really big scrimmage game that I have heard is lots of fun. My mom went a couple of years ago and said it was a blast.
Not much to report today. Last night I went out for dinner and drinks with some friends. I had a pretty good time.
Still no word from H. I guess I can just expect to not hear from him for a while. I think the no contact thing gets harder by the day. He did say to me the other day that he is thinking of canceling his cell phone. He said "that will just be one less way people can get a hold of me". I think that comes from his depression. I SO want to call and check on him....but I'm not gonna!
Good for you! I have majorly cut back on calling my H during the day. No more text messages (and I just bought the free texting package last month darn it!) or voice mail messages. The only time I have called him was to tell him that he had a call from his boss.
Myabe he will reach out and contact you again soon.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Sounds like you had a fun evening. Always nice to get out with friends. You said it yourself, you were happier before he came to live there because you were out more and having more fun and working out and feeling good. So, time to get back to that and let him sort out his life.
He needs some space still. He doesn't feel like he has anything to give you yet - he has been too financially and emotionally dependent on you since he moved.
I think once he gets past that, if you two can break the old habits, you might see some progress.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I hope so, in the past me backing off has seemed to work. Although now I think he feels he has nothing to offer so he feels he has no reason to call me.
I am meeting up with his family next weekend and I am really considering calling him to see if he wants to go with me. He may have to work though. I know his mother asked him and he told her he had to work...which he told me he doesn't know if he has to work yet. I KNOW he would like to go....but maybe I should just let it go and go without calling him. AHHH! I am over analyzing!
He doesn't feel like he has anything to give you yet
...I said this before I even saw you said it..so it must be true.
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You said it yourself, you were happier before he came to live there because you were out more and having more fun and working out and feeling good.
I think this is also because I was detached. That is SOO much harder with him here. I wasn't worrying about him. Now I just worry all the time.
Let me just tell you how crazy I am...Monday night we had some really bad storms. Our power went out for a while. My first thought when I got up for work was "I need to call H to make sure he gets up for work. His clock probably went off and his alarm won't go off." I resisted the urge. I mean well...but I need to let him grow up. I remember my counselor told me that H probably sees my "worrying" as controlling. I have to remember that. I am not his mother.
I mean well...but I need to let him grow up. I remember my counselor told me that H probably sees my "worrying" as controlling. I have to remember that. I am not his mother.
That is a great insight - something I think I have been dancing around as well. It's amazing how Cs can sometimes put things into words in a way that just makes it crystal clear.
This is something I also need to work on.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Yep, that is why counseling is good. They say things that just make that lightbulb go on and help you to "get it". My H even said that when he was going. He said he liked her because she helped him put his thoughts into words.
Maybe he will remember that and want to go back soon.
