(((lwb))) just stopping by to say hi. Sorry H is being such an a$$. It must be tough being the mom of 3 kids - especially when 1 is supposed to be an adult! You are an amazing woman with 2 children that are blessed to have you! Hang in there!!!
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
It sounds to me like your H is going through MLC like I think mine is. I read somewhere that they become the opposite of who they were, good fathers become poor ones, etc. I am hoping this is just a stage H will eventually pass through and maybe your H as well? My H has recently started spending more time with the kids since he moved out, so I am taking that as an encouraging sign. Hopefully your H will pass through the stages and start acting as a more mature adult. (They seem to act like teenagers I think when in MLC.) Karen
My D6 tells me goodnight, then adds "Mom, Dad was late bringing us to art night so I didn't get to be in my play". H was next to her when she said it, I hope it stung, because its sure haunting me.
I sure hope he bottoms out soon. I never cease to marvel at how well you deal with all the rubbbish your H does. I know people keep saying this to you but you must never stop believing it - you are amazing.
Some of the women on these boards are just awe inspiring and you are one of them.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I have been off and on sad all day and when H texts me at the exact time he is supposed to be there (so I can go to work), it hit the roof. I called him, said I didn't have time to text back and forth, what does he want. I went off on him about being reliable and hung up on him.
Ok a little story for ya...
My First W left one day ... Just took off... I was left with a 3 mo and 3 yr old girls. About a week later I found her. We talked and I found out that she was addicted to Cocaine. (I felt so stupid I had no Idea).
Anyway we agreed that she would see/have the girls on weekends. Well the first few weeks I would drop the girls off at her house with some money for food and diapers. Then the next few weeks I started dropping them off with food and diapers and no money... That lasted about 2 weeks then when I had the car packed with the girls stuff I would get a call that W was sick and could not see girls... The 3 yo was really disappointed. Then the next time she was having problems and would not be able to see the girls and again the 3 yo would be sad and ask why. I just told her mommy was not feeling well. SOOOOO I stopped letting the girls know they were going to see their mom until the last minute when I knew for sure she was going to take them. Her "visits" slowly faded until she stopped calling to see them. It seams because I stopped sending money for food and diapers. (Which she most likely did not use for food and diapers) her interest faded.
My point is that if there is a way... Maybe you should just not count on your husband. Just plan on getting a sitter. We need to realize that we can not make our spouses do ANYTHING. Even take their parent hood responsibilities. It’s their loss. My first wife has not seen my two daughters in over 20 years. Drugs to strange things to people. If you can and do arrange a sitter and IF you Husband does come through then the surprise to your D will be good. It will make her time with her Daddy special. (Man I have to go to the sitter today, what??? I get to go to daddies instead? Oh Boy)
Just a thought
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
LWB, I think H has a good idea here. It not only serves the purpose of having the girls taken care of but you wouldn't have to call your H all the time.
You would be able to drop the rope and let him deal with the conseqences of his actions.
Just my OP.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
LWB, What is going on with this man? Is he 35 or 15? I would be angry for the kids, too. It's one thing when they do this crap to us, but do it my child, WATCH OUT!
you H ticks me off so badly. He really needs a reality check!
But Husband is right, I wouldn't tell them they are even seeing him unless he about to show up, somewhere along those lines.
Your entitled to be sad lwb, There is going to be good days and bad ones, but know that you are a wonderful person who doesn't deserve this and neither does your girls.
He is truly a lost soul and until he really and truly realizes this knowone can help him he has to help himself.
Thinking of you ((((hugs)))
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Karen
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