Hey Y'all. I almost forgot that today was my Wedding Anniversary. We got married 11 years ago. I wish I could say that I was still committed to keeping my family intact and staying married, but I only feel a love that is a sort of nostalgic pity. I have lost a lot of respect for my former spouse, as a friend, certainly as a role model for my kids. He has just lost it and I feel the need to really let go. We have been separated for over a year and he has gotten worse. IO am sure that is a classic scenario. The cheating walk away dissatisfied spouse leaves and tries to make it with someone weaker and easier and finds his life is much worse in the long run. I have not made a safe path home because he is still pretty verbally abusive. I wish Michele would write about that aspect more. What if we feel that affairs are part of emotional abuse. How can we open our arms to that?
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Nice to hear from you again! You make an excellent point there, are affairs emotional abuse? I've never thought of it that way, but it certainly has that effect. So I would say yes, affairs are emotional abuse. And no, you should not open your arms to that.
I hope you will enjoy today anyway. You have two beautiful children as a result of the marriage, so that is something to celebrate.
Thanks for checking in. I used to write daily but I guess getting away from the forum has opened up for more GALing. I have surrounded myself with promarriage friends and neighbours but it is ironic for now I am the only single one!
Happy Independence Day!
My in laws are here and they have not called me in over three months. It is weird. Like clockwork. My mother warned me that inlaws will eventually take sides as blood is thicker than water.
I have known my MIL since I was 14 and we even stayed friends when her son and I were not together during our college years. he and I were high school sweethearts, then he served in the military during war time and I went away to school and to live abroad. We then reconnected ten years later!!! Romantic, yes. But not now.
My ex looks horrible still. I am sure his parents will be extremely shocked and saddened by his appearance but I am sure he will tone it down.
His garb is disturbing. All I can say is he looks like a gay prostitute. He still wears extremely short shorts, high heeled boots and my old baby dool half shirts. Even to take the kids out!! He also wears shiny blue sunglasses with weird bangs.
Yeah, it is weird even for California because of his age. I have lots of young and gay friends. I work in a punk club. His dress is weird for even that because he is a middle aged dad. But I have said this all before but the shock of it all has not worn off..
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
