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Yes, I finally snapped - had a lightbulb moment, call it what you will....I no longer sit here dreaming of H coming home, I no longer imagine what it would be like, I sit here thinking of what I want out of life and why...who is dear to me and why...

I am happy.

I have cut most contact with H. Only very essential kids stuff or finance stuff.

I no longer wanted the crumbs, for real this time...I am worth more, better than that.

All I want now is to really cut loose and find my way on my own path. It feels like a healthy thing to do.

Hopefully the future brings some sort of co-parenting or 'friendship', but for now, I just want to be by myself and I want no 'distractions' from H.
Yes, it means that I am still stuck on him to a point, because anger and pain, still have to do with not wanting to see him much. BUT another side is that I feel confident to go ahead an live my life WITHOUT him. And I am happy about that.

The kids see ow very often now. They have mixed feelings but on the whole I think they like her. I am happy for my children.

I wish you all a very happy Easter Weekend.

Much love and thanks for all your support always

((((((Cinders))))))

Wishing you and your children a wonderful Easter.

Blessings

and ((((((((hugs)))))))

Good for you Cinders. About having the confidence and happiness in your own life.

Getting to that part of my life, was liberating. The choice to be married to my wife was truely my choice as in it was up to me, when it came about.

Hi Cinders.

It really sounds like you are getting to a better place in your life. That's awesome. All the best to you.

and...

Happy Easter.

IMP

Hiya Cinders

Good luck to You and your children.

It's like an awakening isn't it-you just know it time to let go-remove yourself from the drama/madness of it all.

Fair play to you-you're a role model to many of us.

I know you'll be feeling sad also but look at it this way-you've got all sorts of new and exciting opportunities opening up to you.

I've been over on Surviving the Big D thread and them girls are inspiring-I'm no-were near D yet but it's nice to see how easy and untense their lifes are as apposed to constantly analysing every little exchange we have with our WA's.

Tc

Mandy x

Irish,

Those ladies gave their all, in many cases all they could before the ended up in Surviving. If they didn't I think that sense of ease and untense, would be covering their regret for not giving it their best.

Go neari on bothar leat.

I think I spelled it correctly.

Cinders- You have come so far in the last 6 months. You definately have let go...and it seems you are finding peace with it. I am happy for you that you have made it to that place.

May your life just continually get better from here.

<3
Upside

{{{Cinders}}}

Finally snapping is a wonderful place to be!! Ah that lightbulb moment! It brings light, hope and happiness. You deserve it all sweetness.

Never forget how wonderful and loving your are.

Happy Easter hon....your golden egg is just around the corner, kinda hidden, but waiting to be found.

C'ya SOON!

Jeanette

hi Jack

Absolutely agree with you-I think a good benchmark is that if you know that 10/20 years from now you know you gave it your all you can live a life with no regret- I no way want to trivilise any-one's efforts.

I absolutely Hate the word Divorce and don't want that status-but the reality is that it's a possibility and seeing that the ladies on surviving the big d are upbeat positive happy despite the fight they've put up gives me hope of a different kind I suppose -Does this make sense?


And who know's what the future holds? No-one - unless you count Ali on MLC thread who does astrology-how fab is that!

Tc

Mandy

Cinders,

You are such a strong and loving woman! I'm so thrilled to see that you have flipped that switch and see the light for yourself. I hope to get there someday too.

Hug those kids and keep posting and inspiring. We all love you here!

((((Cinders))))