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Hey,

Just to clarify things- I meant that the feelings of butterflies and all that goes away and turns into something more if that something more is there to begin with- I know that love can last and get better with time can you really expect all those gooey feelings all the time. If that was the case then our WAS's would continue to feel those feelings with the fairy tales they left us for when most of the time - the new wears off and they come back or switch to someone new- Just my take on it

true love is out there I really believe that!!

Love,Lisa

LL,

What in the world are you doing up so late!! Get some rest!!

Thanks for dropping by my thread, I don't have them too often, but when I do it's nice to know some of the "old" friends come to visit.

I hope things have turned the corner for you and you are on a healing path. You've been through more than anyone should. Take the time for Lisa!!

Stay in touch,

Steve

Well Steve

I'm still with you on this one, I would love to meet someone who sets off the fireworks and dumps a basket full of butterflies in the stomach. I know those feelings fade over time and if it's meant to be then those feelings eventually get replaced with something even better. So far I just haven't met anyone that could turn me into mush. I'm not sure if I'm damaged beyond repair or if I just need some more time. I don't even know what I'm looking for yet so I guess I'll just stick to recreational dating for now.

ALL,

Maybe it's the air up here!

Steve

So what do you suggest? Califorina?

ALL,

Not being too fond of real hot weather, my "maybe" shouldn't be taken as locations south. The magic elixir we seek, may be north of the border!

Steve

I'm still interested in hearing more DBers experiences about their thoughts and emotions as they enter the dating world. Good, bad, or simply so scary you will never attempt it again.

Of course a few details would be appreciated.

This is really helping - Thanks

Steve

I've been following RMG's post and find myself wondering; A) if it's possible and 2) If it is, how?

I'm not taking sides in the debate there, but what was his process for finding "the one". I know he gives God, credit, but in regard to his input to the process what was it? I'm curious because it seems to be eluding me. I'll invite him here to see if he could elaborate.

My hope is to possibly discover whatever it is I'm and a few others are missing. I hope he can open my eyes to whatever it is I can't seem to get my arms around.

Have a great weekend.

Steve

I think we all have our own timeline....

some people feel they know a specific timeline but they are wrong...we are all different.

I think we need to find the butterflies and sparks within ourselves and we need to stop "looking" for someone.

I mean...if you are on a quest to meet the one...maybe you aren't ready to find them.

which is much different than just looking

MnSPD,

Before I begin I think I need to state somethings clearly post D.... Things will never be the same.... You will never be the same... You will never view Rs/Ms the same..... D changes you...

Am I saying you cannot recover? No, you can with the help of God first and some good counsel from professionals and people who have been there...

I have changed so much.....

I view love and M as temporal things.... This does NOT mean I take them lightly or I would blaze out... I am just aware things CAN change in an instant.... Someone could choose to leave at the drop of a hat.... Your spouse could get hit by a school bus....... We NEED to see God as our all in all NOT our spouse....

I realize I needed a playmate (No, not a Playboy Playmate! ) and life partner first...... NOT warm and fuzzy romantic love first.... You need to really enjoy, respect and admire that person as a person... NOT with the “in love” goggles on... I would strongly suggest when dating finding women who you could be good friends with.....That is where the problems come in for some guys... The women they are friends with and enjoy their company these guys are not attracted to them..... What you are looking for is someone who can be your best friend, confidant and lover...... If you cannot talk openly with her about feelings, money, sex, politics AND religion, this is not the right woman....

I hope this helps.

If you have any questions, please fire away...

RMG