Olive, hang in there. I keep telling myself that life is not fair. We did nothing to deserve to go through this. Having said that, this is life. I heard a phrase before, "If it does not kill you, it will make you stronger". This is life's way to make you stronger. you have become a strnger person, and in my case, I can certainly see things better from other people's perspective. Can't tell if OW gets it all, or not. Regardless, that's her life. If she is so lucky, that's her fortune. I know I won't be strong enough to wish them luck, but I have, at one point, came to the conclusion that if that's the way it is, I will cherish the years that I had with H and if he is meant to leave and have a "better" life (or not) with someone else, I will continue to make my own life better.
The part wtih your daughter is tough. She will know and see that you are her support. I personally would not let OW and H spend time with D before the D until it is finalized. That's just me because I don't want to confuse them to see that it's OK to date before D is final. It may not be possible in your sitch, (don't know how H will react).
Good to hear from you again. I have been thinking about you. Take care.
OC.. I'm hanging in there.. by a thread some days it seems!!
Easter Sunday was by far the most difficult day I have had. It is the first holiday that I had to spend away from D4. In fact, the first holiday spent without “us” as a family. This is not how it’s supposed to be. My little girl is supposed to be with her Mommy – her family - every holiday.
Top that with the fact that my parents are so angry w/H that they can hardly see straight and I’m stuck in the middle!! I can kind of see why people just run off and change their identity never to be heard from again!!
The days until the D is final keep ticking away. Sometimes slowly.. sometimes quickly. I know that my M will soon be ending and am at the point of accepting this fact.
What I am struggling so hard with is the fact that stbxh's moving in w/ow also means that D4 moves in 50% of the time. I am having SUCH a hard time with this... D4 needs her Daddy and I want her to see him but, wth???
In the meantime, I am doing great at GAL. I'm wondering if it's ok and if I'm ready to casually date now...
I think I would have the hardest time knowing OW will be blessed with your daughter's presence. She doesn't deserve to be that lucky, to have someone so precious around her.
When is your official D day? I have NO idea the right answer about dating.....but I am thrilled you are GAL!!!
Not sure exactly of the date but it will be over early June.
No.. ow ho certainly does NOT deserve to be blessed with D4's!!!
As for GAL, it feels so great to be connecting with my friends again. I had gone into this weird self-preservation hibernation period after H confessed to the A last year.
I've also committed to a 5K recently.. oh boy, time to get back into exercising
The most I can hope for (when this happens to me) is that OW treats my D's as well as I would. And that my H would be 'in charge'. I don't want any woman talking harshly to my babies.
