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Now Neecy,

Why turn this into a negative???? Maybe he is truly can’t wait to get home to you.
I swear sometimes wives take things to serious... I KNOW a few of the things I have done to get a laugh out of my wife seemed to pi$$ her off. BUT... If someone else did it she would think it is funny. It's all in controlling your moods Think of it as a good thing

Husband

Ok Husband, that is not the case, he has been incessantly trying to drive me crazy with statements like these for weeks. On the positive side I see it as a (warped) way of keeping in touch. I was joking about the butterflies and birds yesterday but really he was at work and he thought to contact me. During Dec when the height of his obsession was going on I would not have heard from him if I didn't contact in that direction.

Last night H was off work at 9, I got my D to sleep, turned off all the lights in the house inside and out and locked the door and went in our bedroom to watch Lost in bed. H came in after work to say

-must be nice to be in bed already, and did you make anything for supper?

I said, oh Hi, I wasn't expecting you.
H - Why?
Me - I thought you would be out Par -t -ing.
H- no not till Saturday,
Me - oh I thought your message said in 7 hours. Lost is really good tonight.

End of convo

Niiiiiiice . . .

I knew you'd like that

So what did you think of Lost? My DS15 is a Lost junkie and I think I stunned him a couple weeks ago predicting that Michael was Ben's spy on the ship.

I knew it too! I love that show. It was good last night but not one of the best. I feel bad that Rousseau got killed at the end but I guess she fulfilled what she needed to do in life by reconnecting with her daughter. Ben is so eerie too and he was back on we are the good guys theme again last night. It just blows my mind that these writers could think of somthing so intricate.

Ok Neecy I stand corected. I took it out of content. It is just that I know My wife sometimes "choses" to not "like" me or what I have done.
It's like when my son offers me a bite of his hot dog that he has slobboard all over. I can chose to say "that's gross" Or I know he is doing it out of love and take a bite.
I wish I could take advise as well as give it but sometimes ya need to give them the benefit of the dooht. My problem is I take things too personal. this morning when W was getting ready to go to the interview she went in the bedroom and shut the door. Nowthere is nobody here but her and I. I took it as "closing the door on me"

ok I'll let ya goI'll be back later

Husband

My problem is I like my H too much! I do think he is funny 90% of the time even after he has done so much to hurt me and continues to not take my feelings into consideration when he makes his decisions. I struggle not to respond when he starts these things because pathetically at this point I still welcome the attention even if it is not necessairily positive. I think things could be a lot easier if I could choose not to like him.

You know, everyone shouts me down when I advocate it, but seriously, this is just one of the benefits of "snooping" (intel gathering). The stuff I heard my wife saying to her OM, trust me, I had NOOOO problems staying "lovingly detached" from her.

In fact, it was hard to muster up the "loving" part on most days, LOL.

Puppy

I'm a snooper too. I have seen a small handful of emails and that is what started this whole mess, check that, this is when my involvement started, other than that the only "intel" I have found is proof of phone calls or texts or that he looks at her facebook page once a day to snoop at what she is doing.