I had a Fabulous weekend! I learned all the wildflowers by their proper names and just LOVED communing with nature. Had a great time with a wonderful group of people! I am so lucky.
And in regards to the bfriend. He did call. That night before I left, my deadline, and we had a LONG talk. His excuse for not calling sooner was that we had argued. When we got off the phone I was still mad and that he thought I wouldn't want to talk to him. So he thought if he gave me some space...I let him know what I actually needed and wanted (which was for him to have called etc.)
While I was in the mountains, though my cell didn't work, he left some nice texts saying he missed me etc., also he sent me a bunch of photos to my email.
We also talked about him changing his plans and buying a ticket without speaking to me about it first. He insists he didn't do anything to intentionally hurt me. He said that he felt terrible that he did. We'll discuss it more when he returns.
I am so grateful for the support and advice from this board that I recieved. The validation really helps! Thank you all so much!
I'm so glad that this turned out ok. You have jumped another hurdle in the R game.
A similar thing happened to me with my BF about 2 years ago. We had been together a couple of years at that point. We miscommunicated just before I went on a week's holiday with friends. I needed so much for him to call me but he did not. I hurt SO badly. I was sure our R was over. He did call the minute I got home (he knew when that would be). He had thought I would want space - DUH - I wanted reassurance, affirmation. But let's remember - Men are from Mars, while we are from Venus. I had a week to see if I really wanted to keep the R and so did he. When we finally talked about it we both cried A LOT. We both admitted that neither of us wanted to end it. We discussed what had gone wrong and we agreed not to let it happen again. And it has not.
There are things we should NEVER put up with in a R. There are things we might not want to happen in a R. But it's a grey area. Communication is key. So are second chances. But third, fourth, fifth chances? No way!
I think that only you know what you can accept and not accept. I think a second chance is in order.
Good news! It's funny how men think we want space, isn't it? I guess it's b/c that's what they want. I'm glad that you had the courage to talk about it and let him know what you need. That was a big mistake I made in my M - I just pretended everything was okay when it wasn't, and let things fester. I don't even know if I would have married my ex had I been more honest w/ MYSELF!!
I'm glad you had fun on your little getaway.
Nicola
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Fig, not their latin names, but their names? yes. Ofourse there are so many flowers in this world.
Things are going really well with cutie.
My best friend met him this weekend. She gives him two thumbs up and a big stamp of approval. She thinks he is everything she has wanted for me and that he is so much better than what I had before.
She said she feels relieved. What a great friend to care that much!
I'm trying to remain goal oriented and to focus on me and my own life and just keep moving forward and building things up in a good way.
I'm glad that you have got things straightened out with BF and that he also took the time to bring you something back from his trip. So he was thinking of you. I'm glad!
Have a fun weekend and try not to be too nervous. Prayers for your Mom coming your way!
