Oh, it hasn't been filed yet. In fact, about three weeks ago, she approached me to have a sit-down meeting at lunch to begin discussing the settlement of assets, custody, etc. This meeting was delayed by a weather-related school closing, so she asked me to re-schedule. I obliged, only to have the weather interfere again. She has not mentioned it in the past two weeks.
I am making no effort to initiate or schedule these meetings. This is her disaster to create, and I will not lift a finger to help make it happen.
You know we DB's knock ourselves out to keep our marriages intact, but I was talking to my C today. And in her case her H had an affair, they divorced, and he is apparently not that happy and my C is much happier after the divorce. And I wonder if that is true for a lot of us that may wind up divorced; like my H is moving in with a woman that's been married multiple times and has troubled kids, I don't see that R being a long-term happy one for my H. And my H has lots of emotional problems: anger, lying, etc. which I think will cause him problems, and your W also has problems which will cause her problems in her next relationship which DB's of course are careful to figure out and work on right away. I just think even if we do wind up divorced we actually may wind up a lot happier and our spouses may wind up not half as happy as they think they will be. That's kind of what my C was explaining to me today although I am not probably explaining it as well as she did! Karen
H is moving in with a woman that's been married multiple times and has troubled kids...
Sounds familiar. My wife's boyfriend is divorcing his third wife. And both of his adult sons are currently under indictment for felonies (each of their charges are separate and unrelated to each other).
Hi and welcome back. I am happy to see you here, and you know you will always be supported. We cheer for Team Mark around here!
Your first post was amazing, and I am so happy you can see how great you are, and see that you will continue on in life being happy and healthy. I agree somewhat about DB not helping my situation too, but I completely agree with the DB boards and the amazing people on here saving my life. 100%.
I am making no effort to initiate or schedule these meetings. This is her disaster to create, and I will not lift a finger to help make it happen.
Glad to hear that! The longer you can avoid this, the longer you will get to be a "full-time" dad and protect your kids from whatever potentially sicko OM she may hook up with.
Just try to think of her as an immature teenage girl who's taking up space in your home in exchange for baby-sitting services.
(Am I a little too harsh or what???)
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Oh, it hasn't been filed yet. In fact, about three weeks ago, she approached me to have a sit-down meeting at lunch to begin discussing the settlement of assets, custody, etc. This meeting was delayed by a weather-related school closing, so she asked me to re-schedule. I obliged, only to have the weather interfere again. She has not mentioned it in the past two weeks.
Has your attorney advised you on any steps you can take to protect yourself against a "sneak attack?" Since you know where your M is headed, it might be wise to prepare.
Excellent recent posts. Thanks for the insight into your life.
I'm sorry I don't live closer to you, because I would be honored to have you as a close friend -- the kind of man I would be trust to be a role-model and mentor for my sons.
I pray that you experience joy and lightness of spirit in this time of transition and uncertainty.
Mark, I agree with what everyone else is saying...that was an excellent post. You seem to be in a good place. When push comes to shove, you find what you are made of....and boy did you find it. Take care and keep staying strong. You did all you could.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Hey Mark... you are there my friend... you are there.
I know you like to think of this as "her chaos" to create, but also realize she is keeping you prisoner as well.
I'm in the same boat... I made her file, but she is living the double life to the best she can. In my case, it's a financial thing.. she gets to have her BF and I'm paying all the bills. I'm hamstrung. I've been pushing the divorce which she obviously is dragging on.
You are doing well my friend... considering the situation.
Keep it up!! Summer is just around the corner.. look out world!
