Dar, Im sorry to hear about what happened with your D....school is a scary place now a days....Im seriously thinking about home schooling my daughter for a while....
Take care, you are in my prayers.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Thanks Kiss. I told the school that if this is how a top 10 in the nation school is, then I will pull her and pay the $10k/year for a Catholic school. I'm sure it can happen there too, but at least the classes are smaller and maybe they're watched more. I'm VERY surprised that the principle and/or social worker haven't called me yet either today. So upsetting. But thanks for your thoughts/prayers.
Yes, I do feel badly for her as well. Trust me, I do since I love kids and hate to hear bad things happening to the innocent. I'm also very concerned about D and what she might think because of this now as well too though.
I've been in this girl's house. Her aunt has a BF and a 22 year old D w/BF's. Lord only knows what goes on there though.
Dar, when things were fragile with my Bf, I invariably waited 7 or 8 hours before replying..that way, he got it late and had to reply to me the next day. So it made him wait, gave him space but also, kept the communication going day by day.
Can you try putting more space between you? Nothing will change I dont think if you dont change. You seem to be stuck in a pattern of behaviour with each other..have you noticed that? Just my outsdiers perspective. If what your doing isnt working, change tack, as the good book says!
Sounds like your D realised there was something wrong in this girls behaviour as she was upset enough to tell you about it. Its great she did and you were able to nip it in the bud after 3 occassions. Have you spoken to your D to say that this girl may be a bit unhappy and thats why shes behaving oddly and its not your D fault?
Ali
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Yes, I have stressed this to D all night. I told her about her mom (not the whole details) just that she lives with her aunt instead and D already knows this girl sasses the teacher every day and has major attitude. D knows it's not her fault and will not get in trouble for this. I think she's worried about the girl being mad at her but I told her that's okay since she doesn't need a friend that makes her do things that she's not supposed to do or that make her uncomfortable.
Don't respond to his next email for 2 or even 3 days.
I know I am repeating myself, but it gets tedious to watch you acting like a puppy chasing his tail.
Round and round you go, and nothing and I stress NOTHING changes.
He makes promises.
You believe them.
He doesn't follow through and then you wonder why.
Each thread contains the exact same words.
You want to know why.
You want to know when.
You want to know if.
Enough already.
Lets do what we said we were going to do from the begining.
No more talk about him.
He is gone.
He has his own life now.
Get some type of help for financial help, either chid support or maintainance.
Go see someone to secure your finances.
Set up a regular visitation for your Daughter.
If he shows up, great.
Have no expectations.
You asked me what I think of your Husband and his MLC.
I don't know your Husband, I only know my own.
I can tell you that he may or may not be in MLC.
He may be a WAS who simply had enough of the BS at home.
He obviously is not happy in his life and maybe some of it has to do with his Marriage and some of it has to do with other stuff.
You have not made enough changes in your own life to make a difference to him.
That is all I know from following your threads.
Dar, I am not being unkind, I am being honest.
Too much of the blame for everything goes to the MLC'er rather then takng a good hard look at ourselves in the mirror, it is easier to shrug it off and say, oh it's all part of MLC.
That is total and complete Bullsh*t.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Oh believe me BND, I have ALOT of blame in the collapse of my M. I know it and H knows it and I have apologized to H for my part. I believe if he was a WAH though, he'd have filed by now. Why not? Nothing to lose then and can fully get rid of me off his back then.
I know you're not being hurtful and just being honest. But, I'd like to know, why is it okay for you and anyone else to want their H back, but it seems you don't want that happiness for me as well?
