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Don't worry SF....I told her that TJ MAXX was having a BLOW out sale this weekend so she better be ready......

Swooooooooooooooosh, right over her lovely head

I think they were red pop rocks

Yes, I was laughing but can you just imagine?

Tell you what - you try it out and let us know.

Okay - that's enough for me. It just makes me...well you know...it's been a long time.....

OKay, I will try them out but when I looked for them at the store the other day, I could not find them. Maybe they are under a different name.

I would love to buy a pack, go to H's office and............

No comment! I am still recovering by the TJ MAXXX thing going over my head. Not good advertising for my 1-800- talk to a poledancer business. I really have to STAY ON TOP of things lick that.....

no that was not a typo......:)

Journaling.

TJ has not called all week. The only convo we had was a text exchange that he dropped, after initiating a visit here this weekend.
Naturally, this is probably off, because of the weather.
He ususally calls once a week. Never on a Friday or Sat night. So he most likely will not call tonight. But, we had agreed to see each other this weekend and nothing.

So besides the obvious rejection stupidity on my part, I worry about him. I sorta need to know if I am traveling or he is coming. Wouldn't it be obvious to call? He is in town all week.

I am not worried about OW. I assume they are still in contact. Our R has been wonderful including that I am no pressure no guilt and I think we have had fun! Easy and comfortable, very nice. Family oriented some of the time, and our time alone is great. So I really do not think he is re considering his choice, seriously.
I know he will mourn her. I know he is mourning his Dad. I expect that contact will continue up to 6 months.
I have not seen any evidence of depression or withdrawl, or for that matter hitting the bottom.
I want to know that I am not hindering that process.
I want to know if I am saving him from the natural consequences of his behaviors.
This is what worries me overall.

I can totally deal with the not seeing him this weekend. I need some Holly time. (With or without him I declare this naked weekend). (RELAX! My grandparents were nudist! It is in or out of the genes!)

Does anyone think this is a depressive, withdrawn episode?
If it is, ok. Not great because I wish this on no one. But if it is in his best interest to go through this, then I want to stay out of the way.

It's just that he came up with the I was thinking of coming down there after a stop in to see my mom for lunch.........
then he dropped it.

I have also noticed something else about our contacts.
He really responds to my contacting him. It is always light and flirty, and I get lots of smiley face texts for my effort.
I like being kind and light with him. He does come forward when I do this. Not the usual DB principals.
So do I contact him? This would be the time, but really the ball is in his court, but I love the guy. If I can bring a smile to his face as he thinks about me this makes me happy. It could last me this naked weekend!
I promise, when I go out to shovel snow I will put lots of clothes on, but I do not promise not to be naked underneath!
Thanks for listening,
Holly

Well there is your answer sweetie.

I see no reason why you shouldn't contact him. You will have your answer, and you will handle the phone call or TM like the pro that you are.

Have a fun nekkid weekend.

well, text message sent. No response. That is unusual. Something is up.
I think he is very self absorbed right now and fighting demons.
About 1 month ago he told me he goes home for lunch most days. He said he still needs alone time.
I thought he was referring to how he needed alone time in our marriage. Maybe he is really struggling right now....
.
wow. This is scary.

Do you think his visit with his mum could've evoked memories/thoughts of his dad? My Hs dad died one year after we M (almost to the day) and even now 19 years on he still struggles with this fact (I'm convinced it is the reason for his MLC).

Try not to worry too much Holly (easier said than done I know)

Holly, please don't be scared. Detach and do your thing. Let it go to God. Everything's going to be okay.