Sara, There wasn't much more to the conversation. He told me he was with me because he wanted to be. He said I've been with you the past few weekends, haven't I?
I could tell something was up with him last week. I saw him Friday night before he went out of town with a fishing buddy. He then called me Saturday night to let me know they were about to check into the motel and then called me Sunday night to tell me about their day. He got home Tuesday. I talked to him that night, but he was a little distant. I had a feeling that the OW was up the her old tricks of lying on me. Of course my feelings were right.
At the reception he was very attentive. He followed me around like a puppy. If I went to talk to someone, it wasn't long before he was looking for me. I just don't get him...
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
He seems to do just enough to keep you hanging in there and then, when he seems a bit more sure of you, he goes and plays with OW again. He can't bear the thought of you deciding to get a life elsewhere. He really needs to grow up and stop playing around with you like this. You would have thought by now he would have learned not to believe OW. Your H sounds really insecure with obstinate tendencies!!!!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I need to play devil's advocate here and ask a question. It strikes me too that your H would come up with such an utterly lame excuse about where he got his "information" about you and about what "D" was doing on your behalf.
But I wonder if it was really an attempt to protect the OW -- I suspect he was trying to protect himself. I think he might have indeed gotten the "scoop" from OW, but since that would violate the NC "rule", even if he did not ask for her to give him the info (and might have actually been delivered as a malicious taunt by her), he did not want to "give up his sources" to protect himself from accusations of continuing to have words with OW -- otherwise, I would think he would be glad to blame the rumor on OW.
NC, There is no NC rule with him, the OW is still his secretary, so you see what I'm up against!
I'm not sure that it was a jealousy thing for him other than him thinking someone was trying to play a game with him by trying to make him jealous. OW will do anything to make me look like I'm trying be deceitful.
Funny how our WAS "play games" all the time, but want to accuse us of misconduct!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
That explains a little. Complete NC is not practical in this case. However, discussion between your H and the OW that involves his personal business -- you Yoyo, my dear -- should be off limits at the very least. Any discussion about you and H's relationship with you is just wrong. H should tell his employee that if she ever says anything again to him that is so inappropriate for them to discuss or is just plain none of her business, he should threaten to have her written up and that placed in her HR file.
But I guess he doesn't have the b*ll's to take that strong a stand yet, does he?
So is it that he's trying to hide that he might be truly backsliding, or that he's afraid of giving you that impression?
A man who just died is delivered to a local mortuary wearing an expensive, expertly tailored black suit.
The female blonde mortician asks the deceased's wife how she would like the body dressed. She points out that the man does look good in the black suit he is already wearing.
The widow, however, says that she always thought her husband looked his best in blue, and that she wants him in a blue suit. She gives the Blonde mortician a blank check and says, "I don't care what it costs, but please have my husband in a blue suit for the viewing."
The woman returns the next day for the wake. To her delight, she finds her husband dressed in a gorgeous blue suit with a subtle chalk stripe; the suit fits him perfectly.
She says to the mortician, "Whatever this cost, I'm very satisfied. You did an excellent job and I' m very grateful. How much did you spend?" To her astonishment, the blonde mortician presents her with the blank check.
"There's no charge," she says.
"No, really, I must compensate you for the cost of that exquisite blue suit!" she says.
"Honestly, ma'am," the blonde says, "it cost nothing. You see, a deceased gentleman of about your husband's size was brought in shortly after you left yesterday, and he was wearing an attractive blue suit. I asked his wife if she minded him going to his grave wearing a black suit instead, and she said it made no difference as long as he looked nice."
"So I just switched the heads."
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
