He texted me until after 2AM and the ILY's, am glad you are my wife,etc finally said.
It must really take a lot for these guys to break away from something they now realize is not what they want or who they even want to be with.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
SF, Yes, it takes an awful lot of faith and courage to break away from what they've been use to for a period of time. The withdrawal is no different than that from drugs, alcohol or gambling.
SF, you are such a warm, loving, compassionate and patient woman. He's finally opening his eyes to see all of these wonderful qualities that he shoved deep down a while back. The dropping of the crumbs of friendship is doing the job. I'm very happy to see his finally admit that he's glad you are his wife. This is a huge step for him.
Spring is just around the corner, I do hope that w/new beginnings/life, he'll finally be able to take that one huge step and come home.
Enjoy your week!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
It is going to take him time to come back home which is okay as I want him to come home when he is ready.
I am glad he is in contact with me and opening up. He has made such great progress and now I just have to stand back and let him get thru this part as well as he is sometimes depressed, sometimes confused, sometimes afraid of me because his feelings run so deep for me, is so sorry for all he has done to us.......
lots of baggage he is carrying.
But I am okay.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
based on what i am going thru....its good hes not home yet.....he will so much appreciate you when he does make the step
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
we have been talking about our anniversary which is in April, if you can believe that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
i think what alot of us forget from time to time...is it took them along time to reach that point away...they are not gonna be back whole overnite...that takes time too.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest