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Hi Dear Friends,

Well, I'm doing ok actually.

D9 came back from her week away with school today, and I had to tell her about our dog....she cried and she's sad, but she will be ok.

I went to pick her up from school when she got back. H was also there...he came home with us after that...stayed till really late in the afternoon.
We talked again for a really long time...weird, it first started about how he thinks he wants the D settlement (he is very very kind with what he wants for me and the kids) and then from that came another long R talk...nothing bad, just talking about 'what happened to 'us' and that my eyes have opened up to many things I did wrong, and he admitted some stuff he did wrong too...it was strange, he kept sending the kids off telling them he wanted to talk to 'mommy' (me of course). It was good, I think we both got a lot off our chest. He still is sure we aren't meant to get back together...he still wants me to find a wonderful guy and be happy. I told him that I AM happy and that I know that I don't need a guy for that.
I think I validated a LOT of what he said. And weird, but a lot of what I validated I actually agreed with, so it was easy to validate.

I guess it was good just to have this talk. Don't really expect this to mean anything, you see sometimes, the pain is so deep and went on for so long, that the healing time takes even longer.

What I do know is that he does intend to divorce me. He still doesn't really say the word 'divorce' but that's ok.

I'll post more later.

((((((((Cinders)))))))))

Sorry to hear about your Bubbie. You were a wonderful mom to that doggy.

You sound good, and you know babes, like we always talk about.

One day at a time. It is all in God's hands, and what better hands can they be in?

Luv ya

Lissie is right Cinders. One day at a time. No one knows how your story is going to unfold (except for Him, of course).

You are loved by many people Cinders. You do know that dontcha?

I have been out of town, Cinders. I am so sorry for your loss and for your H's inability to see what is right in front of his face. I hope he is not stupid enough to go through with the D because I know that if he ever had a brain in his head he will be sorry that he let such a wonderful woman get away. Sorry for the negativity in my post but sometimes I just get aggravated at how stubborn and selfish these MLC people are.

Maybe it is just because my H is in attack mode again. He got bad financial news so he has to blame me for the mess.

God bless you, Cinders, you are a better woman that I.

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Sandi

(((Cinders))).

I'm so sorry about your dog, and that you've had such a really difficult spell the last few days. Hugs to you and the children.

AH

Nice commercial, Sandi

Checkout all of Sandi's posts, people....

I apologize for my post. I did not read the thread. I found that information and was trying to copy and past it to all the "men" I though was listed in the forums. It's hard to tell by the nickname sometimes. I would not be insensitive to anyone going through a loss. I also did not know I wasn't suppose to tell about the books. I do not receive any profits from any of it. I was only trying to be helpful. Again, I am sorry.

Sandi

Gosh, I hope you meant that in a nice way Minkerman. As I already posted, I was not aware of any loss for anyone when I was quickly posting last night. However, I have learned my leason.