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Well we know why you're named Grace, because clearly you have a lot of it!

I am impressed with you, as usual. Did your H tell the girls alone or with you there? I thought you had planned to tell them it was a mutual decision.

My H is also open about his self-hatred. Yet he seems to feel he has no choice in this matter, like it is beyond his control. So annoying!

Grace, I remember my wife having almost the same conversation with me after she moved out.

She has been very cold most of the time. We are still not D, yet. He seems to be running true to form according to the MLC handbook.

Your H is lucky to have you and he will know that someday in the future that he was fortunate he married the right woman.

lmg,

We had talked abot telling our D's together, but he did it alone and he couched it as a move to expedite his commute (he says b/c he wasn't sure what I wanted to say....but didn't talk to me about it. sigh). The purpose of the convo last night was clarification for me. We will talk to our D's together this weekend (at the moment Fri. night is the plan) and present it as a marital separation.

mmf,

I hope you're right, but I think that day will come long after a D. I don't think he'll be back. I'm actually ok with that even though it isn't what I want. He is a special man and I truly wish him happiness.

I'm still just looking at my feet.

Grace,

Amos dies at the end, though his friends give up enough of themselves to bring him back to life. Your poetry has to be better than Rupert Toon's poetry.

I see you more like Butterscotch, she never gave up either.
She was the first to offer her stuffing as well.

There are no guarentees.

Many who have had there marriages restored, had to be seperated first.

Advice,

Don't remind him anymore that he can call you or talk to you about anything. Once was enough for the time being. Don't tell him you are his friend, prove it to him through your actions. Ok?

Grace you have mail.

E

Grace-
We have all been here so many times. It is so strange how you can be so sure of what you want to do one minute and then next, well, you take a 180. You have always seem to have been on a steady course so I have my doubts that you were really ready to make that leap. I think you know you can't trust your emotions right now so, relax if you can. You will find your bearing again once this storm passes (I had to put that in pirate terms for you! ).

You will make it through this. We are all here rooting for you Grace.

<3
Upside

Jack,

Somehow, I am not surprised you know the story. It is one of my favorites. I bow in thanks for the Butterscotch comparison (hmmm, reminds me of Patch).

There are no guarantees in anything in life. Today is the only day that is promised to me and even then I have to make it the best day I can.

I will heed your advice and just be (while I watch my feet).

el,

Thanks.

Upside,

I'm picturing you in a demented pirate outfit with pom poms. I'm a little concerned about my sanity here.....
all roots are gratefully accepted.

I am gonna HAVE to read that story!!

roots?

It's a wonderful book by Dean Koontz. Even though lots of people read his stuff, I don't know many that have read or even heard of this one. I don't think it ever came out in paperback.

Roots, is just an example of a mind gone sideways...