I am so glad for you. I guess I just had another one of those days of friends saying accept it, he is happy and in a new relationship, he loves her and is invested, and move on. It is so hard to hear.
RCR was and is a talented writer who generously relplied with thought and comfort for newcomers and friends alike. Shy lurkers in need of reassurance also appreciated her very much.
And you too, AmyC. {my font won't turn purple. Imagine it purple and me too... I am still furious over the recent changes... }
Wow, we have tons of feedback! Our goal is to help you strengthen yourself - and to restore your marriage. Michele, staff members, and moderators work hard to maintain this site. I am so grateful to Michele, Virginia, and their crew. Their heart is in the right place. Can we thank them, instead of being angry?
A website requires maintainance. Guidelines exist, as per any other site. These were already posted. Many people work behind the scenes to help you through these times. I apologize if you do not agree with us. Truthfully, I do not know why RCR was banned. However, you can review the rules.
Just imagine not having this board...There would be no encouragement, venting, nor valuable advice. When I went through my separtion, Michele was my "shelter in the storm". I adore her for placing marriages first, and providing this "sounding board" for us. Please respect our leader. This website has rules, just like any other place. If a member was banned, there was a valid reason.
The book's author should imagine not having the benefits from this board.
The friendships formed here have transcended the original dynamic. The examples of goodness and even courage are at least as important as the so-called 'mission'. I suppose it is possible that the participants are readers/writers who "care too much". The effort to redirect the conversations has changed things forever.
This forum was appreciated. It was great while it lasted.
OK, I went back and read the rules. The short summary, don't post things that might cause offense, violate copyright, advertise, or have personal contact info. Oh, and the one that says the mods can do whatever they want. (I don't really have a problem with that, it's true on every internet board, and it has to be that way). So, where did RCR go wrong? If she caused offense, we are all in trouble. She might say something you didn't want to hear, but she was as kind as kind and thoughtful as a person could be. I don't think I ever saw her post Copyrighted material, or advertise, or post personal info. So, there must be another set of unwritten rules that she violated. In my mind, most, if not all of the posters who've been censored or banned, would have happily (or at least willingly) adapted what they were posting if someone had given a clue that there was a problem, and posted it so everyone could read it! Instead, posts, and entire threads, just vanished! If you asked why, the "rules" were posted, but no indication of what had been violated. So, from what I've been able to figure out, the mod disagreed with the posted, and took the action that the rules absolutely do allow. And the action that killed the SSM forum, and have driven several very valuable posters away from this forum. It is hard for me to imagine that that was the intention, but it was a pretty predictable result. I've stayed out of this for the most part, even played peacekeeper one day, since I'd prefer not to be banned myself. In my opinion, the way to get through this is with some real communication, rather than "because we can"!
I tried really hard not to violate any of the rules here, but I guess what happens, happens.
I guess I just had another one of those days of friends saying accept it, he is happy and in a new relationship, he loves her and is invested, and move on. It is so hard to hear.
