Ali, continue to be a safe place for him. No pressure. Just let him know that you are there for him if he needs anything. I think it is huge that he felt comfortable enough to confide in you about this.
It is great that he went to the doctor and is even taking AD's. I think I read on your other thread he may go to counseling. He knows something is wrong and is trying to do something about it. That says a lot about him.
It's good that he's recognizing his feelings (depression) have to do with himself and not about you. (Many depressed people automatically assume it's the spouse's fault). I think you need to consider that he might not be ready for any relationship until he gets the depression under control. And it sounds to me like he's taking the right steps to do that. I think it sounds very positive. And the fact of you being a friend through all of this will mean a lot to him over time... regardless of what happens.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Hey everyone...well after my BF confessed that he is now diagnosed with depression and on tablets, he asked to come over this evening. He hasnt confirmed yet, but I am expecting him. I am guessing that now the "truth is out there", he wont be able to continue to wear the mask with me, but maybe we will have an open and more honest conversation, although who knows and I will have to leave it up to him to start one I guess ! I dont know how it will go this evening, but I hope I would get some sign from him that now that he knows he was depressed, maybe that IS why he left me and therefore, not the right thing to have done! Nor to insist that he wasnt depressed, just IDLYA! It would be amazing to get an apology, but I'll take whatever he says as a bonus, it is just great that he offered to even come over !
