Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Midlife Crisis Oddkins

mmkay. I never read any Koontz.

how do those feet look?

I'm picturing you in a demented pirate outfit with pom poms.

Wow. For some reason, I find that image strangely...erotic.

Oh-oh. I see a straitjacket in my future...

Grace, you mentioned how you try to live in the moment. Thanks(?) to another soul on the board, I've fallen head first into some books on Zen Buddhism. Talk about living in the moment...those monks rock! I'm devouring one right now by Brad Warner...it's titled "Sit Down and Shut Up! Punk Rock Commentaries on Buddha, God, Truth, Sex, Death, and Dogen's Treasury of the Right Dharma Eye." Talk about a fun read. Great sense of humor. No hoity-toity mystical BS. And some of his thoughts, insights, and interpretations really blew me away. And I'm not at all the spiritual type. He has another one I've already ordered titled "Hardcore Zen."

Anyway, I thought I'd float that out there.

OK...back to my cube. There is work to be done...

Sir,

My feet look big....sigh. I suppose that means they're made for walking and hiking tough trails. I've got to put a positive spin on this one way or another.

Bomb,

Cool. I'll definately check out the books.

I find way too many things erotic these days. I'm a little disturbed by the direction my mind is taking with regards to a straighjacket...

And, by the way Grace, no love for Drew?????

Drew!!

Hugs and smooches.

Always have love for you. I'm starting to feel abit like I have my own male harem here.....I like this.

Yeah, you have groupies. Good thing you are so far away. . .

(((Sir)))

You are too sweet. You know I'm sitting here preening now..

Got any plans for the weekend? I'm thinking of taking D's to a movie or whatever they want to do.

We're supposed (geez, this has been hanging out there for months) to talk to them Friday night. This time it will be the we're separating talk. I don't think they'll be completely surprised (esp D15), but b/c he told them first it was a move for his commute (idiot, why did he think we'd talked about shat to tell tem in the first place), D13 is going to have a tough time. This means he won't be spending the weekends here (at least not overnight) and the vacavtions he told her we'd all take together are not going to happen either. I'm sooo not looking forward to this.

We're supposed (geez, this has been hanging out there for months) to talk to them Friday night.

"Gee...thanks sweetheart, for starting our weekend off with a bang."

Something tells me your D15 will eviscerate him. Make sure you have some towels for clean up...

I'm thinking of going skiing this weekend. Either that, or some buds of mine are asking me to go on a big ride with them - a road ride. It would be 60-70 miles I guess. I'm a little nervous because last year at this time I had been riding every week. I was in shape, a very strong rider. This year, my mood is lower, I'm out of my own house, not riding nearly as much. My ego, you know. I don't want to be a slacker on the bike. I guess I will have to set that aside.

Actually with my ankle, I think riding would be better than skiing.

For movies - the kids and I went to see The Spiderwick Chronicles last weekend - it was cute but not great. I liked The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe, better.

Tonight I'm going out with some buddies, maybe have a drink or two, eh?

On "the talk" - think about how you'd like it to go. Maybe let him do the talking. I erred, I think. I was the one who told my kids we were divorcing. I remember while doing it, thinking of the "experts" who say "present a united front." I remember watching my wife as she kept completely mum during the whole thing, standing by the side. In retrospect, she wanted me to be the bad guy. I shouldn't have done it for her.

I'd advise you to think about what you will say to your kids in private. It's a shock to them. They're going to be ticked, surprised, hurt. They may know NOW but they don't want it to be true, so they don't really accept it. hearing it will make it seem more real. It will hurt. Think about what you will say to them in private. Own your part. If I had to do it over again, I would have asked that my wife present it as her decision.
I would not have made the announcement on my own.

There you go again, just keep us coming back for more. You got the best attitude, keep up the good fight, your my hero!


Btw you got mail.
gsr1