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It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Anyway, I feel a lot better now. I went back and read all of fish's posts from only 2 weeks ago. He was in a LOT worse shape than I am now...and his W did a complete 180.
It's a rollercoaster. I will continue my weekend plans, unannounced. She has not told me that she has changed her plans to move back into our home this month. So, the most current info I have is just that. The rest is my overactive imagination. As fish told me...it's up and down...you can't overthink this sh*t.
Tonight I went to my buddy's place for dinner - his W was out for a girls night. We cooked up a big mess of pasta, drank some REALLY good wine, and cracked open a bottle of 20 year old Lagavulin single-malt scotch. Really a good night, I need to do more of that!
Yes, you are getting it!!! Enjoy your friends, drink wine and good scotch, be happy! If you exude happiness and confidence your wife will not want to let you out of her site.
My wife has been really digging me lately. When we first met I was on a roll... had a real Gordon Geko type attitude and look. For the past 2 weeks every time I knew she would see me I had on a pin stripe suit, Polo dress shirt, Armani tie, Gucci shoes, Rolex and hair geled and done perfectly. I always said... just got done working, not time to change.
SHE LOVED IT!!
It's actually quite simple... she wanted the man back that she married, not some boring dish rag that kissed her ass!
I believe that our situation really began to improve when I told her about 6 weeks ago to "Go F*k yourself. I think that was a real wake up call and a huge 180 for me. In her eyes, I got my balls back. Once I stopped kissing her ass and getting a life, she started to respect me again.
Looking back it seems so simple. It's just tough figuring this sh*t out when you are in the middle of a sh*t storm.
Rise above it. Get your own life and show her that you are perfectly fine without her. There are plenty of women that would love to be with the "Mink." -- It's true. Do a search on Yahoo personals and my bet is that over 1000 women are available in your area!
DO NOT KISS HER ASS! IF YOU DO, SHE WILL NOT RESPECT YOU!
Yes, I can always count on my buddy fish to tell it like it is
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If you exude happiness and confidence your wife will not want to let you out of her site.
I truly will make sure I live this, especially over the next few days. She really seems "down" right now. Maybe she is lonely, maybe she is unhappy that a future alone would be financially difficult, so maybe she is questioning her motives for wanting to come home. She would really have a hard time going it alone.
However, if I show that I am happy and confident...a partner she can totally enjoy...well, that gives her a different reason to come home.
I actually am a very confident person...it's just that this sitch is tough to work my way through. What I want the most out of life could be gone in a flash, with one mis-step.
Yes fish, you are right, I could move on, and what I have to offer a woman is incredible. But right now...I want her. You know exactly what I mean.
Soooooo.....acting "as if" is the concept this weekend.
She just called and wants to come over and wash her car.
Those who have followed my sitch have to wonder if this is "code" for her telling me she wants to see me. She's done the car wash thing a number of times since our S.
Maybe this time she actually does want to wash her car. Or maybe she wants to tell me she's changed her mind about moving back. Or maybe I should shut up and just enjoy life
Not to keep anyone in suspense...it is now 3 hours later. Here's a brief recap, and also what happened today.
- This past Tuesday, she asked me to back off a bit, told me I was "smothering" her - She said she didn't want to get together this weekend, that we should take a break, since we are very busy with her birthday next weekend - She still feels things are moving too fast, that we should slow down on the reconciliation, romance, etc...not my style, but I'm not behind the wheel, so I'm trying my best! - Out of the blue, she called this morning, wanting to come over and wash her car - She came over, we both washed her car, chit-chatted the whole time, ZERO R talk, I stayed light and cheerful - I refilled her coolant for her, then she grabbed her purse and started walking to the apartment with me...I assumed she'd leave after the car wash - She said "why am I walking up with you?" I said "well it's lunch time, can I make you a bite to eat before you go?" - She said "why don't we try that new sushi place down the road?" - I went upstairs, got my wallet, we went to the sushi place, had a fabulous lunch, R never came up once, we simply had a nice lunch, like old times. - We went to our cars, she said "give me a kiss and say bye", to which I happily complied. - We drove away in separate cars.
Analysis: Despite making plans not to see me, she did want to touch base after all. She did not want R talk...neither did I...none happened. In recent weeks, we have talked of where we would like to live once we're together again. She brought it up today at lunch; she is still wanting to do it. That's good...it's future-oriented. The sun was shining, and I said "looks like winter is over". She smiled and said "yeah, the winter from hell". I said, "no, it's been good for both of us, so not from hell". She said, "well, maybe not from hell, but from some otherworldly place!" We laughed.
So, it was just a nice, no-stress 2 hours together. That is good for us, I think...she won't feel I'm going to jump on her about the future every time we see each other, and it takes the pressure off of me as well.
So, back to "one hour, one day, one week at a time".
Dude - Every time she asks to come over and wash the car, it usually turns into a booty call! It did not happen this time, but she is VERY predictable. I've never met a woman who enjoys washing her car as much as your W. She could just go to the fu**king car wash. She uses that as an excuse to see you. Awesome.
Be very careful right now. You are 1st and goal from the 1!!!!
Don't fu*k it up.
ALSO.. TURN OFF YOUR CELL PHONE AND GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND GET HAMMERED! That will keep her guessing and intrigued by the new you!
