OK, W now back in bed as she was up for most of Saturday without a rest and it took a lot out of her. I'm enjoying the time with her as there is no work pressure for her. Things are light and fun - she is better and cracking jokes.
I had a sore throat Friday/Saturday, but still took the children out on their new bikes. Children are under the weather, so looking after them also. Hopefully she is seeing a side to me she thought I had lost.
Weird but nice thing happened the other night. Asked for a kiss when I was tending to her and was rebuffed ('ou need to look after the kids'). Did a 'as if' and sorted the kids out for bed. Well, getting into bed, W says 'Do you want that kiss now.' Guess what my response was
Ok, one week since last posted and....what a week. W still off sick and signed off for another week. She's feeling better but still very tired.
The trip to her meeting is off (rayy!!!!!) as she has resigned from the company. Also we are planning our summer holidays :), which I will book tomorrow.
No training for the marathon, but I would rather miss that and have my W back.
So, happy times at them moment - just got to keep the momentum going.
Not been on for a while, just haven't felt the need. Life is getting there, no R talks and gradual moving forward.
Good week last week, children off and we shared the childcare. W took them out and about and I had the chill days at home...perfect. W still suffering with tonsilitus and feeling down, but not blaming me.
Couple of niggle days, but that is more down to her time, rather than anything major. She thought I was searching through her handbag the other day and snapped 'If you want to know anything, ask', I responded with 'I respect your privacy and the only thing I want to know is how you are feeling (still not well).
Also I received a Valentines card, wine and underwear (for her to wear ) - hooray.
Overall, life is better...not perfect, but much better.
OK, life's taken a bit of a slide. W is still confused about life and is now under the doctor for depression (to be honest I had thought that for a long time). She was angry with me this morning and I confronted about that. Seems that the old things are still going round her head, so some tears and better after that.
I (almost) got a confession that she acknowledged that the affair was wrong (could that mean it's finished?). So I take that as a plus point. Told her I was here for her and if I did say things that annoyed/upset her, that she had to let me know.
Comes in waves, doesn't it? And you never know when the next one's going to hit.
You are absolutely correct. Your W has to tell you if anything you say or do upsets her. I'm sure you've been married long enough to KNOW when something you say or do upsets her but if she is anything like my wife, you probably have to deal with the passive aggressive nature for a while before she finally explodes.
If she can reign her reactions in and simply be open with you about whatever it might be she is feeling, I'm sure she'd find it to be rewarding and a hell of a lot less stressful.
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