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Cinders, it's seems like these MLCers just get stupid in their journey too, doesn't it. I would like to know what part of the brain they are using, if any.

Thanks for stopping by. I wish I had as much faith as you do.

They aren't using their brains at all. They are operating on emotions only. If they were using their brains, they would be thinking about what they are saying and/or doing in front of their children and others.

They all get somewhat stupid on their their travels through the crisis. That's why you can't rely on them for anything.

Here's to a new week and I hope each of you can have a pleasant one!

if we had used our brain we wouldnt have ended up in the [censored] we created.tomorrow will be a new day and he would have forgotten most of what he said.

Snodderly and Happy,

Is it really true that they don't remember half the stuff they say?

I sure know that my H doesn't hear a word I say.

Hey Happy, did it bother you to be in the same room with Ali when you were in MLC?

I hated her. she was a constant reminder of everything that i was running away from. there were times when my daughter made the same expressions as her and it made me angry. i blamed ali for everything because i didnt want to face myself and yet at night sometimes i cried myself to sleep because i missed my homelife and sometimes even ali. i was a real mess i think worse then your husband.when ali stopped fighting back and just acted like a friend i began to take notice.

You made me choke on my dinner, I never met anyone who is worse than my H. Didn't think it was possible.

See I have been this way for quite sometime, but yet he still treats me like I am the one who had the affair on him.

For instance, his Grandmother invited me to a family dinner in a couple of weeks, but my H said he was not going to be there if I am there, so now I am uninvited. His excuse was that he would feel uncomfortable in the same room with me and he doesn't think we could get along being in the same room. His Grandmother knows this is BS because she has seen us together in the same room and we get along fine. I think he just wants to be able to bring the ow around.

Thanks for your help Happy. I really value your insight.

i think you should still send a gift it shows you have some class. your feelings must have been really hurt but did you ever think he would be embarassed in case anyone who didnt know you are separated asked any questions? blood is thicker then water be careful what you share with these people een the ones you think you can trust.

Oh, and Happy, don't be surprised if you get banned from here, it's been happening to other posters lately.

If any of the moderators are reading this:

PLEASE DON'T BAN HAPPYINCOGNITO! HE IS A FORMER MLCER AND EVEN THOUGH HIS WORDS CAN SOMETIMES BE HARSH (sorry happy) HE HAS A WEALTH OF ADVICE AND HIS INSIGHT IS INVALUABLE.
So newbies, be warned. He really is a good guy.

well thanks i guess i should be expecting that now as i posted on franks thread.thats must be where everyone has gone to.

Happy, I have done nothing but took the higher road when it comes to his family. Especially, his mother. She is a piece of work.

I think I will still send a card, at least to his Grandfather. (it's a dual bday celebration for H's mother and Grandfather)

Ok, ok...maybe I will send MIL a card too. At least if anything, ow will see it and it will bother her that we still have a R of sorts. I know, I know, who cares what the ow thinks, right? Just thinking out loud.

but did you ever think he would be embarassed in case anyone who didnt know you are separated It's going to be just his family and they all know about us. I think he would rather bring his bimbo.