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I totally agree with Yoyo, STOP talking to her! Don't answer the phone, no matter how much she calls! She's angry. She wants to retaliate against your H and you. She wants to make waves. Don't let her. And, are you sure she's telling the truth about V-Day night?

And, the nicer you are, the more calm and collected you are, while OW is the opposite, is in your favor. That is what happened in my sitch.

If you have so much anger against your H, then detach for awhile. Tell him you need some space. We all know how those lies can infuriate you. GAL and remember the 48-hr rule. Do some reading on forgiveness -- it helps...

Joie

Sara thanks for the link, there is one in my town on Sept 9th..Wish there was one sooner though but today is a good day and I am feeling so much stronger.

You are both right. This moring she texted me again and sent me the texts that my H was sending her. This just helped me feel better though. She begged him to speak to her and then she begged him to have breakfast so they could talk. he told her that was not possible and that he wasn't hungry. LOL. I am SO SO happy that I got strong and gave him that ultimatum last Wednesday. He knew I was serious, I really did in fact want him to go I was so fed up with all the Bull and it worked. The OW sent me about 10 texts in all and she called this evening, I didn't pick up and i didn't text back. H is communicating with me again and being honest, he saved all of the texts that they sent to each other last night and called me to tell me about her calls to him this afternoon. She is desperate and not happy..How funny and ironic that she is now the one crying and telling him how hurt she is. They both knew what they were doing, I was the only one in this triangle who had no clue what was going on so i really don't care about hur pain, that may sound mean but I have suffered far too much. today is the first day i have not cried in nearly 2 mos.thanks so much for all of the support. I know we still have a long way to go and I have lots of DB'ing to do but I feel so much stronger now.