My MLC wife did the boob job talk. Very early in what I now see as the onset of MLC. At the time I didn't recognize it as such. I just thought - hey, she's thinking about sex, that sounds good with me! I resisted the idea because, to me, it seems barbaric to slice up a perfectly good set of natural boobs, boobs that fed my babies many years, to make them artificially large. I loved those boobs as they were. I didn't say any of that, though, I just raised my eyebrows and giggled. Thinking about the boob job seems like standard operating procedure for MLC-dom.
Anyway, Tree, it sounds to me like you are doing well. Maybe now is a time to Count your victories, Enjoy the baby steps, and Continue to work on you.
Just some thoughts from an outside observer - - if she is on the phone with friends, do you need to worry? If she talks to friends, must that turn into "pushing your buttons"? Me, I would be glad she has friends. Seems to me, her actions don't need to influence your mood. My wife actually withdrew from all of her friends, which I viewed as negative. Of course they were married people...
- if she goes out at night, that sounds like a "good for her" thing. Maybe you could view this as a challenge for you - how much liberty can you give her? How much freedom and independence can you tolerate? I think the answer probably should be "all of it." One way or the other she's gonna do what she wants. She knows what you want. Continually reminding her that what you want is a little different than what she wants - that seems like a good way to turn a minor issue into a seething resentment.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
Perhaps we should make a list of a MLCers shopping list - a his n hers sort of thing - my boobs are bigger than your car bonnet......anything he can do she can do better - or vice versa.....
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Don't mean to brag but I got a very long heart felt hug and a kiss on the cheek and then on the lips before I left for work after lunch. That makes me feel so F******* good.
Yes! Remember that feeling! It keeps the love alive, Tree!
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
Did a little GALing with Fish & friends tonight. It was really my first night out. It was awkward but did have fun, thought it was funny that there was no females around. I am not a late night person and wanted to home for my son's so here I be. She is out with two of her friends (very ugly NEW MLC friends). Now I am going to be sitting up looking at the clock waiting for her to arrive. I need to GAL more and am going to.
I was actually thinking alot about Grace_o suggestion of getting a new & interesting hobby and i think I am going to go with something I always wanted to do. Flight Training.
She has mentioned new boobs but I don't think she would ever do it. She is so skinny it would look like two boos on a stick.
Bomb, I know her new friends from the Gym. One is really heavy and ugly, never married girl from India who spends all her time on E-Harmony. Her post says that you have to make $150K yr and be at least a $1M to date her. The other is from the mid-east and has been separated for 6 years. (Lots of fun to hang with ha) I just find it funny how she dos'nt tell me where she is going nor what time she will be back. I would never ask but when i went out before she wanted to know where i was, with whom and what time I would be back. Wierd. I think she is going to find out what a cold harsh world it is out there and find out how comfy it really is in our bueatiful protected cacoon. She is going to crash and burn soon and I am going to be right here to pick her up and rebuild. (sucker Tree?)
