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They want it now
They don't consider affects of their actions on others
They don't understand why they can't have everything they want (now)
They are totally irresponsible
they only want to play
They seek thrills

Oh yeah. I can "check" all those boxes.

BT - alimony in my state is no longer the law of the land. There is the idea of spousal support, but it is intended to be temporary, to help the spouse get back to the workforce, earn her own income. Figure 2-3 years spousal support for someone like my wife with a degree and a head on her shoulders. Certainly not "the rest of her life."

But it does irk me, just a little, that she chucked it all, trashes our marriage, and then gets money with her walking papers. hmph.

All she wanted to do was bait me last night. It started at the dinner table and then to the TV room. I did pretty good but slide a little. I asked her what she was mad at and she said nothing. I asked her what happened in her day that made her so upset and she said nothing. This is unreal.

I did pretty good but slide a little. I asked her what she was mad at and she said nothing. I asked her what happened in her day that made her so upset and she said nothing.

BT, I don't even ask the questions anymore. They don't know why they're mad, or they don't want to tell you. Just keep smilin', act as if. You don't want to know what's buggin' em. It'll just freak you out.

This is unreal.

Yes, it is.

I got a kiss goodbye today. Small steps.

Ah, a kiss. Small steps are ok, at least it's a step.

HUGS

Yes, yes, a kiss! a kiss! Don't overlook it.

Sometimes maintaining the pretense of compassion and spousal respect (like a kiss goodbye) is enough to keep the spark alive.

BT, I thought you did fine. Attentive - you asked what's bugging her. She didn't know, you didn't press it. She appreciates you watching her, paying attention. Keep your cool.

Thanks Sir and Grace,

We had a long talk at lunch today. She agreed to go to a new MC and to go to see my Pychiatrist with me. Big move. She told me she was going out tonight and I backslide and asked her if she was going out with OM and she played with me a little and finally said no, (I know believe nothing but I believe her). She loves to push my buttons. I am so pumped she agreed to go to MC again after that horrible experience with the last one.

She started talking about the R and I said I did not want to talk about that but she went on to say that we were in "Limbo". Well you all know I have been worried about her calling the lawyer about the Separation agreement, I guess she has not done that because she feels like we are in limbo. To me, I like limbo! Better then separation.

Don't mean to brag but I got a very long heart felt hug and a kiss on the cheek and then on the lips before I left for work after lunch. That makes me feel so F******* good. I wanted to drag her like a caveman by the hair into our cave and start a little fire. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!

Minute by Minute, Day by day, week by week.

Pray for me and thanks for the support.

Your beloved,

Strong Confident New DBin TREE

I am sooo jealous. Outside of that I'm really very happy for you.

I hope this new C is something that works out for you. It might be helpful to check in with her after the sessions and see what she thinks (of the C).

I've been in Limbo for a little over a year and when it's all said and done, I can do Limbo (and the Limbo too
).

Grace,

Limbo is good for me cause I was expecting a letter in the mail that i did not want. I hope she doesn't go out tonight I don't like the people she hangs with. One is single and Ugly and spends all her time on E-Harmony and Yahoo Singles, another is a good life long friend of mine but is going throught a separation and the other is a train wreck that has been married twice and now does her tennis coach. Not my W's type but I can't stand the thought of them hangin out on the bar stools. It makes me sick but if she is going out I will hold the door and not ask any questions. Maybe she will see that there are a lot of smucks out there and come running home. (wishful thinking)

I am having a good day and I worked hard for it!

Grace,

Limbo is good for me cause I was expecting a letter in the mail that i did not want. I hope she doesn't go out tonight I don't like the people she hangs with. One is single and Ugly and spends all her time on E-Harmony and Yahoo Singles, another is a good life long friend of mine but is going throught a separation and the other is a train wreck that has been married twice and now does her tennis coach. Not my W's type but I can't stand the thought of them hangin out on the bar stools. It makes me sick but if she is going out I will hold the door and not ask any questions. Maybe she will see that there are a lot of smucks out there and come running home. (wishful thinking)

I am having a good day and I worked hard for it!