After a mild skirmish about who was making the evening's "plan" (h had said early in the day that he would come up with a plan...when I spoke with him in the afternoon, he hadn't and didn't seem particularly inclined to do it...that sort of irked me...I don't mind making "the plan" or frankly not even having one...but I do mind thinking that he's going to make one -- per his assertion -- and then having him drop the ball. Anyway, I didn't express irritation but just asked directly if he was still going to plan something or if he wanted me to do it...h recommitted to making one).
Anyway...came home to candles in the bedroom and champagne... NOW, THAT'S A PLAN! We considered going to a movie later in the evening but got pizza/subs and watched two episodes of "From the Earth to the Moon" -- h loves the dvd set that I bought him -- we've been working our way through it together, now!!!
We're off to Montreal this weekend with another couple. Main goal is to see two Expos games I'm sure we'll squeeze in some drinks and food, too, but it's primarily about the baseball!!! Should be a good time (also nice to exorcise some ghosts...we went to Montreal with the same couple last year...things were a lot different in R then...given h's ongoing a... gonna eradicate THOSE cruddy memories!!!)
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
About the "could this ever happen again" issue...it's very strange (I think ), but I rather feel like what I've been through has pretty much prepared me for anything.
Like if I were to find out CJ was still in touch with OW, or a new OP, I would be able to handle it (not exactly sure how...DB or D), but I'm stronger now, I trust myself way more than I did before all of this. JMO
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I don't think this response is strange at all...in fact, it's very wise! Knowing that you can't CONTROL with certainty what's going to happen but feeling confident that you'd handle it??? Sounds good to me!
Its true! Its what Dbing gives back to you. With all that's been going on with me lately, I feel no return of the despair or desperation of the first time. Disappointment? ... Yes, I felt OM was finally behind me and now I have my doubts again. Sadden? ... extremely, in the way W is choosing to interact with me, but strangely, I have this sense of inner calmness even tho I have no clue what direction our M will take from here.
BTW, thanks for dropping by and lending your support.
Haven't felt the need to post horoscopes lately but the 2 from yesterday were too good to let slide...
MINE: You don't get long on this planet. A handful of decades or so. Two handfuls at the most. And the last few handfuls go by much faster than the first few. As youngsters, our eyes (and indeed all our senses) are wide open. We take everything in. A minute seems like an hour. As we get older our attention span increases. We become able to spend a lot longer dwelling on the past; or projecting thoughts into the future. So we become far less able to notice and appreciate the here and now. You have something wonderful to focus on. Make the most of it. Forget everything else.
Hubby's:
Psychologists believe that everyone has a hidden agenda. Behind our clever, comforting, conscious explanations lurk intense, unreasonable emotional urges. We can hide them from others. We can even hide them from ourselves. But sooner or later, they will make their presence felt. We will find ourselves looking back on a situation and asking "Why on earth did I act like that?" If we want to feel whole and at peace with ourselves, we must learn to recognise and come to terms with our odd inner demons. That takes courage. But it brings a wonderful freedom as you will soon find.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Had a great weekend in Montreal -- drove up Saturday -- got there in good time with little hassle. We had a bite to eat, relaxed a bit, then went to the Expos game (which they won with a walkoff homerun!). Had a late dinner and went to bed.
Sunday AM had a giant breakfast then again off to the Expos game (another victory!). Drove home, stopping in Burlington Vt for dinner (that was a mistake! took FOREVER! but the food was good!). Got home late, late, late!
Monday was a lazy day -- I'd been fighting a cold all weekend and I just kind of let it take over....went to the gym, did a few errands, watched the Sox stomp all over the hapless Yankees ( ) and then out to a movie. H and I had a 2 minute snippy fight (it was pouring, I felt like he was taking forever to open umbrella, he told me to "chill out" , I got splashed by a car, etc! I was a real jerk, I apologized, he apologized, we recovered nicely!).
I'm just feeling so good for everything that's going on for us right now. H was really physically affectionate over the weekend (holding hands, hugging me, etc) and this morning I got my "in bed hug"! He's also been going out of his way to tell me I'm beautiful and sexy -- words that a woman needs to hear when her hair is frizzy from rain, her nose is red from her cold and she feels like CRAP!!!
There are times when I catch myself feeling a little panicked -- do I know how to do this? Is he bored? Am I as interesting, sexy, romantic, whatever as ow? Is he happy? And then I remind myself that calmness and serenity ISN'T boring, that I'm prone to creating crises! That today is a GOOD day and we can build on that to have all the romance and sexiness and wonder that we want and need. Knock wood but twice over the last few weeks, the little voice in my head has said "I think we're going to make it". Nice to hear it say something pleasant for a change!
Will definitely catch up with all of you today!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
just catching up on your thread. Wow, talk about progress right now. I can't tell you how happy i am for you. Glad to hear the montreal weekend was a success....
I don't think you could have written a better outcome than what is happening between the two of you now. Who knows, maybe it was the Montreal air...
Whatever you're doing, its having a positive effect on your H. Sit back for a bit and reinforce in your mind the things you think have played a major role in getting to where you're at. Then keep doing whats working.
Follow that little voice, but don't jump ahead of it yet OK?
Anyway, I didn't express irritation but just asked directly if he was still going to plan something or if he wanted me to do it...h recommitted to making one).
I'm sure we'll squeeze in some drinks and food, too, but it's primarily about the baseball!!! Should be a good time (also nice to exorcise some ghosts...we went to Montreal with the same couple last year...things were a lot different in R then...given h's ongoing a... 
