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Good news about the interviews. Glad he's a little more positive.

That's funny about the snooping.

Sounds like fun plans for the weekend. Sounds like a rather interesting conversation. I don't think inviting him was a mistake, it's his choice how he handles it.

Hope dinner is good. :-)

Yes, I am glad he is more positive too. I really hope he gets the other job. I thought it was funny about the snooping too...and even more amusing that he brought it up. At least he knows that when I am not with him I am not just sitting at home.

I forgot about this. I did mention the Dr. to him yesterday. I just said "You know, I put you on my insurance so if you want to go to the Dr. then you can." First he said no and I said he had mentioned to me that he was on the AD's and I figured he would run out soon. I believe when he initially said no it was because he wasn't sure how much it would cost. When I told him, then he said "YEAH, I would like to go then." I told him I thought the civilian doctor would probably pay more attention to what he needed and he said he thought so to. He asked for the number of my Dr.

He told me what he had been given by the AF and the dosage was nowhere near what the Dr. gave me. He says he can't tell anything different so I am thinking it is a dosage issue. Whenever he would go back for a follow-up they would change medication instead of increasing dosage.

That's awesome. I hope he can get an appointment soon. That could make a big difference for him.

It takes a couple of weeks to get an appointment, but it is good that he is willing...and even wants to go. I don't think I was as sympathetic to his depression until I went through it myself. When he first left I hit rock bottom, I didn't want to get out of bed in the morning. I didn't want to leave the house, but at the same time I didn't want to stay in the house because of memories. It was horrible. Now I just think how horrible it must be if he feels that way all the time.

It looks like my trip may be put on hold. I had another friend that was supposed to go and she just sent me a text and said she wasn't going to make it. I may end up holding off until she can go to because I haven't seen her in a while either. ...I was kind of dreading the 5 hour drive anyway.

Sorry your trip might be canceled. Nice not to have that drive though. I'm sure you can find something fun to do closer to home though.

TGIF!

H and I went to eat on Friday night. We had a good time. We went to his apt. afterwards and just hung out. I think we are both getting more and more comfortable around each other.

Yesterday he called me and told me his family was coming in town to visit. He wanted to know if I would go out with them. He said he knew they would want to see me and he would like for me to go. I really think that was for moral support to because he always seems to have a hard time around his family. We hung out a little more after they left.

Our friendship is progressing...but I am just not sure if it is ever going to get to the point it was. He seems to have no romantic feelings towards me. I guess I just have to be patient.

Sounds like you had a pretty good weekend overall.

As always, patience is the hardest part. Yes, you guys are definitely in the friendship stage more than the romantic stage. But you have to be comfortable being around someone in order to have a real romantic relationship with them. Things are certainly going in the right direction just in slow baby steps.

I am afraid of getting in a friendship rut. I just don't know if it will ever go to that next level. I will say that I am finally able to have a normal conversation with him again. I remember not even being able to talk to him for a few minutes, I didn't know what to say. Now the conversation just flows, no awkward silences, no arguing. We are definitely getting more comfortable around each other.

That's definitely good on the talking. it's good to work on the communication. But you're right, that's only one aspect of it.

Have things been very platonic lately? Have you considered shaking things up by initiating ML or do you think he would react badly?

Yes, they have been platonic. He hugs me when I leave or when he leaves but that is about it. I have thought about initiating ML...I am just so afraid of rejection. I'm not sure how I would react if he rejected me.